Sunday Poser # 99

Sadje is our host and her poser questions this week are

What criteria of behavior you set for yourself?
Do you set the bar high? Or do you give yourself leeway as you’d give to a friend, family member or a stranger?

I remember a lesson at Sunday school about ‘Do as you would be done by’.  My parents brought me up to be considerate and respectful towards others, and to be kind in thought and deed.
As far as I know, I was easy going as a child, able to make people smile, and glad to help out when someone was busy, tired, or ill. The same holds true today, but I can be very harsh on myself.

For years, if anything went wrong, I would assume it was my fault, and take the consequences. This was a major contributory factor to my breakdown and since then I have tried to be myself, and not what others either wanted or expected me to be.

It wasn’t that I would set myself impossible goals, but perhaps I was aiming for too much too soon in the past and that has long since been addressed.
I believe if you have nothing good to say about a person, keep quiet, though I have my opinions about some that are not very flattering.
I believe in honesty, integrity, trust, and loyalty and try to base my actions on those.
I am still easy going, still make people smile if I can, and happy to help anyone out, but I can’t solve everyone’s problems, though I can listen should they want to talk.
I make mistakes, I get it wrong, and I sometimes do something silly, but if I do, why beat myself up about it? I can’t change it, but I can learn from whatever it was and perhaps not have the same approach again. Nobody’s perfect, and no-one has all the answers to all the questions.

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About pensitivity101

I am a retired number cruncher with a vivid imagination and wacky sense of humour which extends to short stories and poetry. I love to cook and am a bit of a dog whisperer as I get on better with them than people sometimes! In November 2020, we lost our beloved Maggie who adopted us as a 7 week old pup in March 2005. We decided to have a photo put on canvas as we had for her predecessor Barney. We now have three pictures of our fur babies on the wall as we found a snapshot of Kizzy, my GSD when Hubby and I first met so had hers done too. On February 24th 2022 we were blessed to find Maya, a 13 week old GSD pup who has made her own place in our hearts. You can follow our training methods, photos and her growth in my blog posts. From 2014 to 2017 'Home' was a 41 foot narrow boat where we made strong friendships both on and off the water. We were close to nature enjoying swan and duck families for neighbours, and it was a fascinating chapter in our lives. We now reside in a small bungalow on the Lincolnshire coast where we have forged new friendships and interests.
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8 Responses to Sunday Poser # 99

  1. Sadje says:

    Thank you Di for sharing your thoughts. I agree with you 100%. It’s futile to be upset about something that has happened, we should learn and move on.

  2. Very nice post and I think personally that you’ve done amazing things. I agree with Sadje that learn your lesson and move along from the slings and arrows life sends everyone’s way. Something I read or heard recently said something that is true for me anyway: I may forgive, but it’s rare I’ll ever forget. That’s the hard bit IMO.

  3. Nope, Not Pam says:

    This was really well communicated and I think your mindset is perfect. We’re often our own worst enemy

  4. murisopsis says:

    I have a very high moral standard – I hold myself to it and look for complimentary standards in my friends. That said I am forgiving to others and myself when mistakes are made. But I try very hard not to make mistakes (a hold over from working for a bully boss)…

  5. Carol anne says:

    You are the type of person I love Di! 🙂 keep doing what your doing!

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