Lauren is our host this week and her theme is Your First Dating Experiences
I was a late starter in the dating game and to be honest can’t remember my first ‘date’ as such. First meetings with potential boyfriends were usually in a group.
I remember courting my ex husband-to-be who had asked me out by pushing a note through my till at the bank. On our wedding night (15 months later) he confessed it had been written by his sister and it was a dare. We separated three years later.
The guy I lived with from 1981 to 1989 was a single parent and suckered me in big time.
I stayed as long as I did because I felt a responsibility to his kids.
So, I’m going with the time I met Hubby on May 10th 1989 because that was the beginning of our life……………
1) On your very first date, did you do the asking, or were you asked out?
I was asked to meet at a local pub having answered an ad in the paper.
2) Were you typically stressed out before a first date? Did things seem to be easier the more you dated the same person?
Stressed. I smoked two cigarettes before plucking up courage to go inside, only to see him coming out. I said ‘So that heap’s yours is it,’ as he was about to get in his car, having had the forethought to tell me the registration number. He never held it against me, and I could drive the car with no problem, which was amusing as nobody else could!
3) What did you do to prepare for the date? Did you wear new clothes, or special outfits?
Nothing special, a black skirt and batwing jumper as they were the most flattering clothes I had, even if I did wear them to the office a lot!
4) How did you meet those first dates? Were your dates with friends of a family member, or friends of a friend?
I walked to the pub but it was on a bus route so I could get home if we didn’t hit it off.
5) Did you have a curfew on those early dates? Did you typically arrive home on time or were you constantly breaking curfew?
I was 32, almost 33, but was considerate with my time keeping as I was living with my brother at the time and he had three kids under 5.
6) Did your parents insist on meeting whomever you dated?
I always took my friends home to meet my folks, whether I was dating them or not knowing they would always be made welcome.
7) Where did you usually go when on a date? (movies, concerts, picnics, etc.)
Hubby and I liked to go for walks in the woods or along the beach which was great as I had Kizzy then. I was also working 3 nights a week at the dog track as I was up to my ears in debt, so he would come too.
8) Did the boy/man always pay for the date or did you go Dutch treat?
I’ve always paid my way unless it was a special occasion like a birthday (which is more than I can say for ex partner as I got copped for the bill every time!)
9) Were you typically the talker or the listener on a date?
That first night with Hubby he let me do all the talking……….. and I did. I’m surprised he didn’t fall asleep.
10) What did you do if the date clearly wasn’t going well? (feign a headache, ask to go home, end the date early, etc.)
On previous occasions if it didn’t work out, I’d ask to go home, politely say thank you for the evening and not encourage a second date.
11) A connection from the past to the present, if applicable. How long did you date your current partner before marriage?
Hubby and I got hitched two years exactly after we met.
12) Bonus Question: Care to share a disasters first date??????
I double dated with my sister once and a friend of her boyfriend. He was quiet until he’d had a couple, but when I wanted to get up to dance, there was only one place free which was on a podium and he turned round to sit down leaving me on my own. I shrugged and danced anyway. Come up and See Me (make me smile) by Steve Harley was playing. She and her boyfriend were married for almost 34 years (he died in 2010), but I never saw his friend again, or asked about him. He also wasn’t at their wedding.
Written in response to Lauren’s Throwback Thursday challenge.