Throwback Thursday #49 – First Dating Experiences

Lauren is our host this week and her theme is Your First Dating Experiences
I was a late starter in the dating game and to be honest can’t remember my first ‘date’ as such. First meetings with potential boyfriends were usually in a group.
I remember courting my ex husband-to-be who had asked me out by pushing a note through my till at the bank. On our wedding night (15 months later) he confessed it had been written by his sister and it was a dare. We separated three years later.
The guy I lived with from 1981 to 1989 was a single parent and suckered me in big time.
I stayed as long as I did because I felt a responsibility to his kids.

So, I’m going with the time I met Hubby on May 10th 1989 because that was the beginning of our life……………

1) On your very first date, did you do the asking, or were you asked out?
I was asked to meet at a local pub having answered an ad in the paper.
2) Were you typically stressed out before a first date? Did things seem to be easier the more you dated the same person?
Stressed. I smoked two cigarettes before plucking up courage to go inside, only to see him coming out. I said ‘So that heap’s yours is it,’ as he was about to get in his car, having had the forethought to tell me the registration number. He never held it against me, and I could drive the car with no problem, which was amusing as nobody else could!
3) What did you do to prepare for the date? Did you wear new clothes, or special outfits?
Nothing special, a black skirt and batwing jumper as they were the most flattering clothes I had, even if I did wear them to the office a lot!
4) How did you meet those first dates? Were your dates with friends of a family member, or friends of a friend?
I walked to the pub but it was on a bus route so I could get home if we didn’t hit it off.
5) Did you have a curfew on those early dates? Did you typically arrive home on time or were you constantly breaking curfew?
I was 32, almost 33, but was considerate with my time keeping as I was living with my brother at the time and he had three kids under 5.
6) Did your parents insist on meeting whomever you dated?
I always took my friends home to meet my folks, whether I was dating them or not knowing they would always be made welcome.
7) Where did you usually go when on a date? (movies, concerts, picnics, etc.)
Hubby and I liked to go for walks in the woods or along the beach which was great as I had Kizzy then. I was also working 3 nights a week at the dog track as I was up to my ears in debt, so he would come too.
8) Did the boy/man always pay for the date or did you go Dutch treat?
I’ve always paid my way unless it was a special occasion like a birthday (which is more than I can say for ex partner as I got copped for the bill every time!)
9) Were you typically the talker or the listener on a date?
That first night with Hubby he let me do all the talking……….. and I did. I’m surprised he didn’t fall asleep.
10) What did you do if the date clearly wasn’t going well? (feign a headache, ask to go home, end the date early, etc.)
On previous occasions if it didn’t work out, I’d ask to go home, politely say thank you for the evening and not encourage a second date.
11) A connection from the past to the present, if applicable. How long did you date your current partner before marriage?
Hubby and I got hitched two years exactly after we met.
12) Bonus Question: Care to share a disasters first date??????
I double dated with my sister once and a friend of her boyfriend. He was quiet until he’d had a couple, but when I wanted to get up to dance, there was only one place free which was on a podium and he turned round to sit down leaving me on my own. I shrugged and danced anyway. Come up and See Me (make me smile) by Steve Harley was playing. She and her boyfriend were married for almost 34 years (he died in 2010), but I never saw his friend again, or asked about him. He also wasn’t at their wedding.

Written in response to Lauren’s Throwback Thursday challenge.

About pensitivity101

I am a retired number cruncher with a vivid imagination and wacky sense of humour which extends to short stories and poetry. I love to cook and am a bit of a dog whisperer as I get on better with them than people sometimes! In November 2020, we lost our beloved Maggie who adopted us as a 7 week old pup in March 2005. We decided to have a photo put on canvas as we had for her predecessor Barney. We now have three pictures of our fur babies on the wall as we found a snapshot of Kizzy, my GSD when Hubby and I first met so had hers done too. On February 24th 2022 we were blessed to find Maya, a 13 week old GSD pup who has made her own place in our hearts. You can follow our training methods, photos and her growth in my blog posts. From 2014 to 2017 'Home' was a 41 foot narrow boat where we made strong friendships both on and off the water. We were close to nature enjoying swan and duck families for neighbours, and it was a fascinating chapter in our lives. We now reside in a small bungalow on the Lincolnshire coast where we have forged new friendships and interests.
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17 Responses to Throwback Thursday #49 – First Dating Experiences

  1. Nope, Not Pam says:

    I met hubby at a nightclub, I’m a diabetic and he noticed I was looking pale and helped me out. We eloped three months later and anniversary 31 has just been and gone. That’s it, my one and only relationship 😊

  2. Lauren says:

    Thanks for joining in Di. I wondered if having the man pay when you are young is still typical. I thinks it’s great that you had your parents meet your dates and friends. Your first meeting with hubby was definitely one to remember.

  3. Sounds like you had good ‘lights’ (by that I mean sensible boundaries and rules for your dating years) and then, lucky girl, you hit the jackpot! You make a darling couple too! 🙂

  4. murisopsis says:

    I met Sparky in college. We were both shy so it took 16 dates for a 1st kiss. It took 5 years of dating before a proposal…. But we will celebrate 39 yrs this September. I the Pastor was right when he said our marriage would last since we’d been “heat sealed”! (the temps were in the high 90s and almost 90% humidity!)

  5. willowdot21 says:

    It’s so much fun to learn snippets about eachother 💜💜💜

  6. 🙋🏻‍♀️ Di,
    I read this post the other day and thought ‘wow’ 3 loves in a lifetime (similar for me) years together are in reverse.
    On my own blog I choose not to share personal info since I’m aware someone from my past reads it faithfully.
    It’s wonderful you met your hubbie via online dating. The last relationship (short-term) for me in 2017 was with a wonderful man I met online. I treasure those memories.
    Two years into a previous 11-year long-term relationship I should have called it quits. I cared about him only there was no more sparks.
    I’ve only been married once (1966 thru 2001) a decision I’ll forever regret. Today, I look back and reflect on the good times and try my best to dismiss negative thoughts which left me both broken-hearted and vulnerable.
    Now if these relationships had occurred in reverse I wouldn’t be in the current situation, living out the last chapter of life alone.

    • Ah, a bit of confusion here June. Hubby placed an advert in the local paper and I replied in the mail to a PO Box. He says it was the best tenner he spent and I reckon it was the best stamp I ever licked. He is my soul mate.
      I’ve never met anyone via on-line dating. My first marriage was for all the wrong reasons and the following relationship went sour after a few months because of his drinking. They both had their good points though and I learned from them.

      • I don’t think online dating existed 30 plus years ago.
        I assume a newspaper ad could be considered similar only no picture inclusive.
        Sorry ’bout the mix-up and thank you for the explanation. 😊

      • No problems. There was a thing called Dateline that a friend and I tried in the 80s and we both got a folio from Simon. We laughed because it was obviously a con as our differences were quite striking to be matched with the same guy.

  7. Carol anne says:

    I enjoyed reading your throwback post Di! Sounds like you and hubby are a perfect match!

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