Do you believe in second chances?

Such is the question posed by Sadje this week.
She says:

With experience, one learns that people always make mistakes and many deserve a second chance. We should also give ourselves a second chance too if we fail the first time.

A second chance maybe at finding happiness in life. It may be at finding your dream job or it could be going back to school to retry getting the qualifications you didnโ€™t get the first time. Giving a second chance means you have to trust yourself and your judgment.

Would you give yourself a second chance or someone else? Are you willing to try again?

I gave myself a second chance after my divorce but after almost eight years, it didn’t end well. My stash of second chances was exhausted as I listened to idle promises and platitudes, then suffered the consequences. Enough was enough and I was able to leave the relationship.

They say third time lucky, and here I am still with Hubby after 33 years, 31 of those as Mr and Mrs. I wouldn’t change a thing, apart from health issues which are beyond our control.

Second chances are, IMO, a personal thing driven by the person/people involved and circumstances.
There is no second chance as far as Hubby is concerned. Shit on him once and you won’t get the opportunity to do it again, whatever the reason.
I’m a bit more forgiving and give people the benefit of the doubt, better the devil you know and all that, offer olive branches, keep the door ajar etc, but even that after a while grows stale and tiresome making you wonder why you bother. This in turn breeds indifference, which for me is an acceptable alternative to a love/hate relationship.

So in answer to Sadje’s question do I believe in second chances, I’d say yes in the majority of cases, but definitely not a third or fourth.

About pensitivity101

I am a retired number cruncher with a vivid imagination and wacky sense of humour which extends to short stories and poetry. I love to cook and am a bit of a dog whisperer as I get on better with them than people sometimes! In November 2020, we lost our beloved Maggie who adopted us as a 7 week old pup in March 2005. We decided to have a photo put on canvas as we had for her predecessor Barney. We now have three pictures of our fur babies on the wall as we found a snapshot of Kizzy, my GSD when Hubby and I first met so had hers done too. On February 24th 2022 we were blessed to find Maya, a 13 week old GSD pup who has made her own place in our hearts. You can follow our training methods, photos and her growth in my blog posts. From 2014 to 2017 'Home' was a 41 foot narrow boat where we made strong friendships both on and off the water. We were close to nature enjoying swan and duck families for neighbours, and it was a fascinating chapter in our lives. We now reside in a small bungalow on the Lincolnshire coast where we have forged new friendships and interests.
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17 Responses to Do you believe in second chances?

  1. Hi Di, I am a lot like you, but if my goodwill is dismissed often enough, I too will become indifferent all though it is a hurtful process for me. After all, relationships are two way streets.

  2. Sadje says:

    Thanks Di for sharing. Second chance in love takes courage but can be very rewarding. Iโ€™m happy that you were third time lucky.

  3. Carol anne says:

    I agree with you, I believe in second chances but not third or fourth ones ๐Ÿ’–๐Ÿ’–

  4. Nope, Not Pam says:

    I give second chances, but sometimes I donโ€™t want to

  5. murisopsis says:

    A sensible approach to 2nd chances. My opinion is that usually it takes 2 tries to get some things right (especially if I’m sewing something! ). As for 2nd chances for people, that is a more difficult topic. If someone intentionally hurts me then I’m not likely to extend the option for a 2nd chance. However if someone was careless or just inconsiderate I will grant a 2nd chance… depending on the circumstances.

  6. Chel Owens says:

    I’m not sure I actually believe in second chances, after reading through your experience. I obviously do with my kids, but am extremely wary with anyone else.

    • Kids are allowed, but even they can push limits and boundaries. I know of one woman who lost it with her son who then burst into tears and said she didn’t love him. She replied she would always love him, but at that particular moment, she didn’t like him very much.

  7. willowdot21 says:

    I am also just like you just don’t push me too far please, yes indeed a second chance but no more ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ’œ

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