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Your prompt for #JusJoJan and Stream of Consciousness Saturday is: “let go.” Write about the first thing that comes to mind when you think “let go.” Enjoy!
Are we talking about letting go of someone’s hand or letting go of emotions?
I was told not that many years ago that I dwelled too much on the past and it was about time I let go. I was upset, angry, and confused that this person, who I had known for decades, should say this to me, but say it they did and not only did it put my back up, it made me question myself.
Grief is a personal thing. We all experience, handle and express it differently, and I was no different. I had recently lost my Mum and was reminiscing about her. I have so many happy memories of her when she came to stay, when I was a child growing up, and hundreds of other things that made her my Mum. It helped to ease the pain, then this person cut me to the quick by saying they’d heard it all before and I should ‘let go’.
They appear to have ‘let go’ of their partner’s memory, rarely mentioning them and when we went to a church and lit candles for our departed loved ones, they said it was a waste of time and didn’t mean anything.
Well, I decided to let go………….. of a friendship of more than 30 years. It saddened me to do so, but I will not let go of my memories of a woman who gave me life and who I see every time I look in the mirror. Nor will I forget my family or friends who have passed away, our pets, or the wonders of nature that have given me so much pleasure.
I will cling to everything precious that I have seen, been given or shared.
I am right there with you. “I will cling to everything precious that I have seen, been given or shared.”
Thanks Lauren
We only let go of things or people when we are ready to do so.
True
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Memories are valuable, like something to be treasured. Perhaps it’s helpful to let go of traumatic memories but not loving memories. They will always be part of us.
They will indeed. I have let go of some things that were causing me stress and feel much better for it.
I totally agree with you. Some memories are meant to be cherished. Those that have passed live on in our thoughts.
Thank you. Memories are precious.
thats horrible Di that someone would say that to you! I am glad you got rid of that person from your life, memories are precious, and should never be forgotten!
We could not believe they felt that way, especially about their partner. To us, it was cold, and the comment to me heartless.
Yes it was very heartless 🙏
The most poignant part of your message was that “We all experience, handle and express it differently…”
I hope you weren’t too hasty letting go of a longtime friend for her different view. Perhaps your pain inspired an overreaction? Only you know best. But that was my first impression. Best wishes. ❤
Hi Susan, I can understand where you’re coming from, but there was a lot more to it that just their opinion.
The friendship was not what it was, and their attitude over a lot of things had changed drastically over the years, but we had made allowances. We discovered we were not the only friends finding ourselves kicked into touch for whatever reason, some friendships of which went back over 50 years. We are still in touch but only at Christmas.
I thoroughly understand. Just like a marriage ending over an argument about which restaurant to go to, it’s never about the restaurant. 😉
Exactly.
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Though sometimes is better to let go, it’s easier said than done.
Well said
Thanks
Memories sustain us when times of trouble arrive! Sad about the callousness of your former friend. Sometimes you have to let people go . I hope you communicated why you were distancing from her…
We aren’t the only ones that have been alienated. Other friendships go back longer than ours, but we still send cards at Christmas. People change, but we never anticipates such a dramatic one in them. Not the person I remember from years ago.
Thanks for reminding me it’s ok to hang on instead of letting go. It can be healing ❤️🩹
I have too many precious memories to do that.