Now here’s a thought to ponder!

How much have you and your priorities changed over the past twenty years? If you’re on the younger side, answer from the perspective of the past ten years or even five years.

My life has changed a lot over the past 32 years, and for the better I might add.
Thirty two years ago I’d had enough of relationships, was starting a new job, and getting my life back together.
Thirty years ago I remarried, and it was one of the best days of my life. There were no tinted glasses, I knew exactly what was what, and have never regretted it.

Twenty years ago takes us to 2001 and I was faced with redundancy. I managed to land another job in January 2002 and had to deal with office politics of a different kind.
I was good at my job, I respected my bosses, and made good progress with the clients. Some of the people I was working with worked for the money and little else…… they didn’t take a pride in their work, and if they made mistakes, it was all a huge laugh to them.
I didn’t like it, and seriously began to doubt myself as being too much of a perfectionist.
Personnel changed, attitudes changed, and I came back from a fortnight’s holiday to find someone had been fired and myself promoted. What took two previous colleagues 10 days to do, I did in 2 half days on my own, which led to no delay in processing funds received, which in turn went down very well with the boss and head clients.

There was a lot going on outside work too. We decided to stop living our lives for other people and being taken for granted all the time, so we moved away. It took a while to find a property, we re-evaluated our area choices and expectations and bought the cottage in August 2007. Totally unsuitable for what we had in mind, but as we were now unofficially retired, our time was our own and we made the most of it. We learned a lot about people, living in the country, keeping chickens, and making rabbit pies!

Fast forward to the present day and our health has deteriorated considerably. However, we are not letting it defeat us and have modified our lives accordingly.  Our priorities continue to be each other, our home and keeping our heads above financial water.
We have a small circle of friends, Hubby has no family now, and I have little contact with mine. I shrug my shoulders rather than let it upset me, and refuse to go on Facebook simply for their convenience to keep up with whatever they are doing. They have their lives of which I am no longer a part, and we have ours. I hope they are keeping well, but have nothing in common with any of them now and any messages I’ve sent have not been responded to.

Written for Fandango’s Provocative Question for 10th November.

About pensitivity101

I am a retired number cruncher with a vivid imagination and wacky sense of humour which extends to short stories and poetry. I love to cook and am a bit of a dog whisperer as I get on better with them than people sometimes! In November 2020, we lost our beloved Maggie who adopted us as a 7 week old pup in March 2005. We decided to have a photo put on canvas as we had for her predecessor Barney. We now have three pictures of our fur babies on the wall as we found a snapshot of Kizzy, my GSD when Hubby and I first met so had hers done too. On February 24th 2022 we were blessed to find Maya, a 13 week old GSD pup who has made her own place in our hearts. You can follow our training methods, photos and her growth in my blog posts. From 2014 to 2017 'Home' was a 41 foot narrow boat where we made strong friendships both on and off the water. We were close to nature enjoying swan and duck families for neighbours, and it was a fascinating chapter in our lives. We now reside in a small bungalow on the Lincolnshire coast where we have forged new friendships and interests.
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9 Responses to Now here’s a thought to ponder!

  1. Sadje says:

    It’s better to move on with your life than regret the past and uncaring relationships.

  2. murisopsis says:

    I think shifting priorities is more common among younger people. Once you get to a certain age most have figured it out and are no longer re-evaluating things. Finding that comfort is delightful!

  3. Fandango says:

    The past is what it is. You need to learn from it and live in the present.

  4. trishsplace says:

    For all the positives, some sadness in there, Di. I’m wondering what age bracket you’re in. Guessing maybe you married your 30 year love at a later age than I, because we’re celebrating 30 years this month. The main sadness for me is less contact with our kids.

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