No, this is nothing to do with astrology, more of an introduction to Fandango’s Provocative Question this week which is
Do you feel that people are more attracted to one another by their differences or by their commonalities? And why do you feel that way?
First and foremost, I believe everyone is an individual, but who we choose as a partner is very much hit and miss as to whether we’ve made a good match.
Hubby and I have been married over 30 years, and together 32, but we are so different, that probably 40 odd years ago neither of us would have given the other a second look.
What brought us together? Apart from a £10 ad in the local paper, it was the want of company for no more than friendship without having to worry if there was an angle or ulterior motive. To this day we have no idea when we realised we were a couple, a twosome, an ‘Us’, and both consider ourselves lucky to have found each other.
Were we two goats in a field of sheep? I doubt it, though we were both cynical, divorced and coming out of failed relationships, but other than that, we had nothing in common.
I have known relationships where people have got together because they felt there was no-one else, or were afraid they were going to be left behind and alone. I also know of a few where the couple were practically mirror images of each other in opinions, characteristics and backgrounds. Some worked, some didn’t, and as for the reason why they failed, that is between the individuals concerned, not outsiders.
Hubby and I equate this kind of question to goats and sheep. Would two goats in a field of sheep automatically get together because they were two goats and thus familiar with each other, or would the different animals mix and mingle because they were in a community where everyone simply ‘got on’.
Taking it a little further, we passed a field of cows the other day and right in the middle nose to nose with a grazing cow, was a horse of similar colouring, and it was as if he belonged there. Guess we could learn a lot from animals.