You gotta have friends

Here’s a poser for your courtesy of Rory aka a guycalledbloke.

How many friends does a grown up actually need?

Girls, same as guys, always had a best mate, a buddy, someone you’d hang around with most of the time.
Well, most girls and guys. Hubby and I are each other’s and it’s been like that for 32 years.

I had a bestest friend at school 1963-1965 then we moved and I changed schools. Although we kept in touch for a while, it fizzled out, and I didn’t have a best friend until 1978.
Following my divorce, I moved away in 1981 but kept in touch, but by the time I came back to my home town 8 years later, we were two totally different individuals, so that folded.
However, I met a lovely lady who became a good friend in 1988 and we kept in regular contact until she passed away in 2000. She was my best friend for all those years and I still miss her.

I met Hubby in 1989 and he is my best friend, soulmate, buddy, companion, confidante and partner as well as my husband. There is no him and me, we are simply an ‘Us’ .
We know a lot of people, some of which have become dear and trusted friends and are more like family to us. We don’t have to be in contact regularly, but we know they are there for us the same as we are for them. It’s a given and goes back a long way.

Locally, we are friendly towards everyone and so have quite a wide circle of acquaintances.
Friends though come in a different category, and we only have a couple of those here.
So in answer to Rory’s question about how many friends does a grown up actually need,
I would say not many.
The next question is of course, do you consider yourself to be a good friend to other people?

About pensitivity101

I am a retired number cruncher with a vivid imagination and wacky sense of humour which extends to short stories and poetry. I love to cook and am a bit of a dog whisperer as I get on better with them than people sometimes! In November 2020, we lost our beloved Maggie who adopted us as a 7 week old pup in March 2005. We decided to have a photo put on canvas as we had for her predecessor Barney. We now have three pictures of our fur babies on the wall as we found a snapshot of Kizzy, my GSD when Hubby and I first met so had hers done too. On February 24th 2022 we were blessed to find Maya, a 13 week old GSD pup who has made her own place in our hearts. You can follow our training methods, photos and her growth in my blog posts. From 2014 to 2017 'Home' was a 41 foot narrow boat where we made strong friendships both on and off the water. We were close to nature enjoying swan and duck families for neighbours, and it was a fascinating chapter in our lives. We now reside in a small bungalow on the Lincolnshire coast where we have forged new friendships and interests.
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12 Responses to You gotta have friends

  1. How awesome that you and your hubby are best friends. Death is the worst way for a friendship to end. I have lived that also. Great answer to the question.

  2. willowdot21 says:

    You are so right real friends are hard to come by.
    I can answer the second question, you are a lovely friend to have.šŸ’œšŸ’œšŸ’œ

  3. aguycalledbloke says:

    Good friends are indeed hard to come by and it is sad when they are lost for whatever reason.

  4. murisopsis says:

    I think that friendship is the basis of all lasting marriages! That physical attraction can’t be counted on not to fade with age but friendship is based on something more enduring!

  5. Sadje says:

    Iā€™m lucky that I still am friends with 2 of my class mates. They were with me in med school and living with them in hostel, 24/7 established a strong, un breakable bond. There are a few friends which I made after marriage and those are good friends too.

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