Here’s a poser for your courtesy of Rory aka a guycalledbloke.
How many friends does a grown up actually need?
Girls, same as guys, always had a best mate, a buddy, someone you’d hang around with most of the time.
Well, most girls and guys. Hubby and I are each other’s and it’s been like that for 32 years.
I had a bestest friend at school 1963-1965 then we moved and I changed schools. Although we kept in touch for a while, it fizzled out, and I didn’t have a best friend until 1978.
Following my divorce, I moved away in 1981 but kept in touch, but by the time I came back to my home town 8 years later, we were two totally different individuals, so that folded.
However, I met a lovely lady who became a good friend in 1988 and we kept in regular contact until she passed away in 2000. She was my best friend for all those years and I still miss her.
I met Hubby in 1989 and he is my best friend, soulmate, buddy, companion, confidante and partner as well as my husband. There is no him and me, we are simply an ‘Us’ .
We know a lot of people, some of which have become dear and trusted friends and are more like family to us. We don’t have to be in contact regularly, but we know they are there for us the same as we are for them. It’s a given and goes back a long way.
Locally, we are friendly towards everyone and so have quite a wide circle of acquaintances.
Friends though come in a different category, and we only have a couple of those here.
So in answer to Rory’s question about how many friends does a grown up actually need,
I would say not many.
The next question is of course, do you consider yourself to be a good friend to other people?
How awesome that you and your hubby are best friends. Death is the worst way for a friendship to end. I have lived that also. Great answer to the question.
Thanks Lauren. Hubby and I were friends first as basically that was all we had to offer each other (apart from cynicism) when we met. We are extremely blessed to have found each other.
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You are so right real friends are hard to come by.
I can answer the second question, you are a lovely friend to have.ššš
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Good friends are indeed hard to come by and it is sad when they are lost for whatever reason.
very true Rory.
I think that friendship is the basis of all lasting marriages! That physical attraction can’t be counted on not to fade with age but friendship is based on something more enduring!
It certainly works for us, and anything else is icing on the cake.
Iām lucky that I still am friends with 2 of my class mates. They were with me in med school and living with them in hostel, 24/7 established a strong, un breakable bond. There are a few friends which I made after marriage and those are good friends too.