The Personal Touch

One of the things I enjoy about card making is that little bit of ‘personal touch’ that goes into each one, especially when I have someone specific in mind.
Like my blog, I never thought it would take off the way it did or give me so much pleasure.

I was always one to write letters rather than phone, and emails are OK, but not so personal as a handwritten letter with scrawl and spelling mistakes which can of course be corrected when typed onto a computer. Sometimes speed is of the essence and email or text is great for that, provided of course it is read in the first place. I have sent emails in the past and received no response whatsoever, so begin to question whether those accounts still exist, are ever accessed, or basically have become a thing of the past and replaced with social media technology with no individual personality.
Neither Hubby nor I are on FB, instagram, twitter or similar, nor do we wish to be, though I can accept that for many, this is the easiest means of contact some people have with their friends or family. Personally I do not see much point in having, say, a FB page to read what is targeted at ‘everyone’ rather than personal messages between individuals.
We don’t know enough people to warrant one anyway, and certainly would not want to be added to the round robins of other people’s lists. Perhaps this is a fault on my part, but at whose convenience is it to have one, the reader or the writer? It all depends on the size of your social circle I suppose. Ours equates to about a full stop, so one on one suits us best.

In the general ‘anyone on my list can read’ society, can we really get to know a person, what they are doing, how they are, how they feel, or more importantly if they have any worries they may wish to confide in a trusted friend or family member?  Social media is not exactly private, though there are probably ways of making it so.
I was advised of my Mum’s passing by text. Details of her funeral were dispatched across FB despite my having asked previously and directly if anything had been arranged, yet it was considered my fault I hadn’t got the memo. I suppose I was lucky in being included in the addendum about children being allowed, otherwise I might never have known.

Does this therefore lead to being secretive rather than the potential of all and sundry reading our innermost thoughts and concerns?  The fact that someone takes the time to put pen to paper to one particular person appears to be a rarity these days. A letter hitting the mat that isn’t a bill, bank statement or junk mail can mean so much to the recipient, especially those who are not on-line, computer savvy, or social media participants.
I am lucky to have some personal and very dear friends who keep in touch by email.
Like a letter, it doesn’t have to be every day, but the personal tones count far more than an abbreviated message on a forum accessed by hundreds, some of which may be total strangers to the writer.

Just thinking.

About pensitivity101

I am a retired number cruncher with a vivid imagination and wacky sense of humour which extends to short stories and poetry. I love to cook and am a bit of a dog whisperer as I get on better with them than people sometimes! We have recently lost our beloved dog Maggie who adopted us as a 7 week old pup in March 2005. We decided to have a photo put on canvas as we had for her predecessor Barney, and now have three pictures of our fur babies on the wall as we found a snapshot of my GSD so had hers done too. From 2014 to 2017 'Home' was a 41 foot narrow boat where we made strong friendships both on and off the water. We were close to nature enjoying swan and duck families for neighbours, and it was a fascinating chapter in our lives. We now reside in a small bungalow on the Lincolnshire coast where we have forged new friendships and interests.
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14 Responses to The Personal Touch

  1. I like the way you are thinking about this – and social media. Actually writing – moving pen/pencil across paper is so different from email – it takes effort ( and a bit of thinking as mistakes are not invisible – correction does take a bit of care and effort, too).
    General announcements by FB are so…I don’t know – hands off without real connection or contact – instead of communication. We have jettisoned all that, too…much to some’s annoyance. It’s not out of lack of knowledge about it…maybe because of too much knowledge about it.
    Well written – letters and post.

  2. A letter can be much personal indeed. It’s not so formal and clinical like emails. And it takes a lot of effort to send a letter. So it will be cherished a lot. I rarely use any of my social media accounts these days. I found that it lowers my productivity and so I cut down on that. I’m glad that you still take the time and effort to make handmade cards

  3. Liz says:

    A Facebook account can be made personal and private by setting up groups, like friends, acquaintances etc.. so that everyone doesn’t get the mrssage and only certain people, but as you know I don’t bother with it either. Haven’t for years so I know it will have changed in some way again.
    I hated having the odd friend sending me chain messages via my private messages. But she still carried on. So the only way to stop that is block them so they can’t private message you instead, and can only chst on wall.
    But I just had enough with the whole thing.

    I do Twitter. But I am not there all the time. Its nice, but I do make sure now I am not on it often, or for too long. Just short and sweet, because with things going on in my life some things act as a trigger for me.

    Email and text is my main thing for communication as a deaf person. But its nice to surprise a friend with a letter and to receive one too.

  4. murisopsis says:

    Letter writing is becoming a lost art!

  5. willowdot21 says:

    I love a letter too💜

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