Maggie knows

When we lost Maggie last year, I was adamant I didn’t want another dog.
The pain and sense of loss is still there after four months, but both of us have been thinking about her, Barney, and Kizzy, and talking about dogs I had before Hubby and I got together. He is missing her too, and like me expects to see a nose poke round the door when we open the fridge, and that little bit of cheese that doesn’t quite get grated is no longer a treat for a furry face.

Photos February 2019, shortly after her 14th birthday.

As far back as I can remember, there was always a dog in the family. As a child, we had a cat too, but dogs have always been my preference. My Dad was wonderful with all animals, and he always said to let a dog come to you rather than force yourself on it.

Kizzy was a nervous wreck when I got her, and the first time my parents visited afterwards, I watched my Dad with her. He didn’t actually ignore her, but sat on my sofa chatting over a cup of tea after lunch. He put his arm down by the side and left it hanging, and Kizzy’s curiosity got the better of her. She quietly got up and lay down alongside the sofa under Dad’s arm, not touching, but not far away.
Eventually she moved closer, and without missing a beat in conversation, Dad stroked her head. She didn’t move away, moving closer still, allowing Dad to stroke her all the while.
It took about an hour, but he won her trust, just as I had when she first arrived a few months before.

Colin first introduced me to this, and reminded me of it when we lost our baby.

Before humans die, they write their Last Will & Testament giving their home, and all they have, to those they leave behind. If, with my paws, I could do the same, this is what I would ask.

To a poor and lonely stray I’d give:

  • My happy home.
  • My bowl and cozy bed, soft pillows and all my toys.
  • The laps, which I love so much.
  • The hands that stroke my fur and the sweet voices which speak my name.

I’d will to the sad, scared, shelter dog, the place I have in my human’s loving heart of which there seems no bounds.

So, when I die, please do not say “I will never have a pet again, for the loss and pain is more than I can stand.” Instead, go and find an unloved dog whose life has held no joy or hope, and give MY place to him or her.

This is the only thing I can give, the love that I will be leaving behind.

(Author unknown)

Maggie is with us all the time, and we have a PIR in the bedroom that comes on of its own accord for no reason at all. Both of us believe it’s Maggie checking up on us, and whilst we know no other dog will every replace her, we now feel ready for another dog.
Once the rescue centres are open and allowing visitors, hopefully a dog will choose us just as Maggie and Barney did.

About pensitivity101

I am a retired number cruncher with a vivid imagination and wacky sense of humour which extends to short stories and poetry. I love to cook and am a bit of a dog whisperer as I get on better with them than people sometimes! We have recently lost our beloved dog Maggie who adopted us as a 7 week old pup in March 2005. We decided to have a photo put on canvas as we had for her predecessor Barney, and now have three pictures of our fur babies on the wall as we found a snapshot of my GSD so had hers done too. From 2014 to 2017 'Home' was a 41 foot narrow boat where we made strong friendships both on and off the water. We were close to nature enjoying swan and duck families for neighbours, and it was a fascinating chapter in our lives. We now reside in a small bungalow on the Lincolnshire coast where we have forged new friendships and interests.
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37 Responses to Maggie knows

  1. fransiweinstein says:

    Oh, what a beautiful post!! I’ve shed a few tears I must confess, but not because you made me sad. The beauty of the message got to me. Thank you so much for sharing it❤️ The luckiest day of any fur baby’s life, is the say he or she picks you!! I can’t wait for that to happen and look forward to the tales and photos. And the tails too ❤️

  2. Good for you and some lucky dog. I adopted my Norah (named because it means honor and her forever spot was to honor my dear Ollie) just under a month after losing Ollie. I know he’d approve, 🙂

    • Maggie was used to sharing me on our walks, but we always reassured her that we loved her best. I lasted only 6 days after losing Barney before we got her.

  3. Steve Tanham says:

    What a beautiful post, Di. Brought tears to my eyes.
    I can’t imagine a better home for a needy rescue ❤️

  4. Giving love to another animal is the best tribute you can give to your pet. No one wants to go through the pain but the good far outweighs the bad. Good luck on your adventure for a new bonding whenever it happens.

  5. willowdot21 says:

    Yes in indeed a wonderful post Di, Maggie knows best, somwhere a beautiful dog , that you have not yet met is waiting for you both💜

  6. You made me cry. We got Samwise only 11 weeks after our Bert died of cancer. I stood in the vet’s office and cried as I made an appointment for Samwise’s first check up ahead of his coming. His owner was in a nursing home and the family could not find anyone to take him. They were packing the apartment around him and he was scared. I took him without knowing much more about him than his situation, and he healed my heart. I’m glad you are going to rescue another soul, so good of you.

  7. ashleyomelia says:

    I’m so sorry for your loss, but I know your new fur baby will fill that hole in your heart!

  8. trishsplace says:

    Another love affair to look forward to 🙂

  9. murisopsis says:

    So happy for you and the prospect of another dog finding a loving home with you both! Sparky is ready for another dog but I’m not there yet…

  10. TanGental says:

    Ah fabulous. It takes time to create the space for the next Prince (or princess) of paws but I’m so glad yours is developing alongside all those memories,

  11. We have been thinking along those lines too, Di…

  12. Cathy Cade says:

    Love that quote. I hope the predicitions of legions of unwanted dogs after lockdown – when everyone goes back to work and the dogs misbehave – proves unfounded.
    But we have room for one more…

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