Going round in circles…………..

Sometimes I think too much, and I’ve been thinking today. Yeah, I know. My brain hurts, but I’ve taken a couple of paracetamol.
Someone once said to me that they only keep in touch with people who keep in touch with them.
That’s fair enough, but the question is perhaps, how often should we keep in touch, and also who should be doing the touching and who the keeping?

I’ve mentioned before that I have little contact with two of my siblings, so it was a surprise to receive a phone call the other day from Other Brother. I even got to talk to OB’s missus, and was saved by the bell of making small talk when their doorbell rang announcing an expected visitor. The call was thus cut short, but it was nice to have a call in the first place.

Now that Mum is no longer with us, I don’t write many letters, and those I do write are to friends we made on the boat who respond with all their news and what’s going on around them. I write because two particular couples don’t have computers, and a third, in his late 80s as they are, is ‘old school’.

So I was thinking maybe I am as much to blame for lack of contact as they are because, well, I don’t write, email, text or phone on a regular basis, though I don’t forget birthdays or anniversaries and add a few lines in with my greeting. For years, I have had no response from nephews or nieces, so it was especially nice to hear from my niece before Christmas and to receive a parcel containing little packages and a school photo of my great niece.

Hm. The last thing I want is to start something that is going to be one sided, but it won’t hurt to keep with the programme of birthday cards etc with maybe a longer note inside.
Who knows, maybe snail mail will make a comeback.

About pensitivity101

I am a retired number cruncher with a vivid imagination and wacky sense of humour which extends to short stories and poetry. I love to cook and am a bit of a dog whisperer as I get on better with them than people sometimes! We have recently lost our beloved dog Maggie who adopted us as a 7 week old pup in March 2005. We decided to have a photo put on canvas as we had for her predecessor Barney, and now have three pictures of our fur babies on the wall as we found a snapshot of my GSD so had hers done too. From 2014 to 2017 'Home' was a 41 foot narrow boat where we made strong friendships both on and off the water. We were close to nature enjoying swan and duck families for neighbours, and it was a fascinating chapter in our lives. We now reside in a small bungalow on the Lincolnshire coast where we have forged new friendships and interests.
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8 Responses to Going round in circles…………..

  1. murisopsis says:

    The pandemic has spurred me to contact my mother and sister weekly. I had been doing that and suddenly missed my usual day to call – it caused my sister to get concerned and she called me! I guess she looks forward to the call…

  2. As you know my Dad died with the Virus last year … not, I feel, because of it. Because he couldn’t hear us, when he was in the hospital ward, I wrote him letters a couple of times a week and included photographs of what I”d been up to. I don’t know how much he gleaned from the letters but Mum loves the content.

    • I wrote every week to my Mum, sometimes twice as she couldn’t identify the voice on the end of the phone sometimes and would get distressed. She kept them and read them often, they always seemed to be new to her apparently. I am sorry for you loss Laura. It’s three years now since my Mum died.

  3. willowdot21 says:

    I always get so excited when I get a snail mail ..I read them several times πŸ’œπŸ’œπŸ’œ

  4. Carol anne says:

    This year, I’ve decided to send a lot more cards to people. You included, can you email me? With your birthday and address? I’d love to send a card to you!
    you have my email addy but in case you lost it it is
    shirley1980@eircom.net

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