Fandango’s Provocative Question #100

Fandango’s milestone question today is

How do we make peace with ourselves, knowing that, being the basically good people we are, we also have a side to us which we know isn’t the best — our “dark side”? Can we overcome these parts of our lives that we may not be proud of? Or do we simply accept them, learn to live with them, and move on?

I would not wish ill of anyone, no matter how much they’ve hurt me, though when I was a lot younger, much was said in the heat of the moment. Once said, it could not be retracted, and I prefer to keep my own counsel now rather than say something I will later regret, or perhaps can be twisted and used against me.

I was once told that I dwelled too much on the past and should ‘let it go’.
The reasons behind those comments were both surprising and hurtful coming from someone I had known some considerable years, and at the time, I was speaking through my grief at losing my Mum.

I’ve had some pretty dark thoughts that I’m not particularly proud of, and I’ve done a couple of things that might not have been best for other people, but were certainly best for me at the time.
Even in my darkest moment of despair, I managed to turn it round then use it as a learning experience. I can honestly say I have no regrets for anything I have done in my life, only perhaps that I had handled some things a little differently.

IMO it goes with the territory of being human. We make mistakes, and most times have to live with them, but if it has taught us something about ourselves, then hopefully we can move on.
Nobody is perfect, and try as we might, we cannot change what was. If we could, would we be the people we are now?

About pensitivity101

I am a retired number cruncher with a vivid imagination and wacky sense of humour which extends to short stories and poetry. I love to cook and am a bit of a dog whisperer as I get on better with them than people sometimes! We have recently lost our beloved dog Maggie who adopted us as a 7 week old pup in March 2005. We decided to have a photo put on canvas as we had for her predecessor Barney, and now have three pictures of our fur babies on the wall as we found a snapshot of my GSD so had hers done too. From 2014 to 2017 'Home' was a 41 foot narrow boat where we made strong friendships both on and off the water. We were close to nature enjoying swan and duck families for neighbours, and it was a fascinating chapter in our lives. We now reside in a small bungalow on the Lincolnshire coast where we have forged new friendships and interests.
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14 Responses to Fandango’s Provocative Question #100

  1. Sadje says:

    Good point Di. Our past experiences shape our present

  2. Paula Light says:

    Nicely stated ❤️

  3. Fandango says:

    The past is the past and we all have done or said things we now regret, but as you pointed out, no one is perfect and the best we can do is learn from the past and try to be better.

  4. Great points you make! And in my opinion? No. We would not be who we are, if we hadn’t faced dark things in our pasts. It was said to me that ‘the past is a great place to visit, but I wouldn’t want to live there permanently.” I hold with that. Sometimes though, I do admit, the past is a whole lot more pleasing than the present. Those old rose colored glasses, you know! 😉

  5. murisopsis says:

    We live and we learn. At least that is what happens for the successful and contented people. It is only the unhappy and unfulfilled who constantly try to go back in time and change what was. There is only one direction to go and that is forward…

  6. Carol anne says:

    No, we sure wouldnt be di! I loved your answer! Well said my friend, well said! xoxo

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