Fandango’s milestone question today is
How do we make peace with ourselves, knowing that, being the basically good people we are, we also have a side to us which we know isn’t the best — our “dark side”? Can we overcome these parts of our lives that we may not be proud of? Or do we simply accept them, learn to live with them, and move on?
I would not wish ill of anyone, no matter how much they’ve hurt me, though when I was a lot younger, much was said in the heat of the moment. Once said, it could not be retracted, and I prefer to keep my own counsel now rather than say something I will later regret, or perhaps can be twisted and used against me.
I was once told that I dwelled too much on the past and should ‘let it go’.
The reasons behind those comments were both surprising and hurtful coming from someone I had known some considerable years, and at the time, I was speaking through my grief at losing my Mum.
I’ve had some pretty dark thoughts that I’m not particularly proud of, and I’ve done a couple of things that might not have been best for other people, but were certainly best for me at the time.
Even in my darkest moment of despair, I managed to turn it round then use it as a learning experience. I can honestly say I have no regrets for anything I have done in my life, only perhaps that I had handled some things a little differently.
IMO it goes with the territory of being human. We make mistakes, and most times have to live with them, but if it has taught us something about ourselves, then hopefully we can move on.
Nobody is perfect, and try as we might, we cannot change what was. If we could, would we be the people we are now?