Fandango’s question this week is as follows:
When it comes to your friends, your spouse, your significant other, or members of your family, is it better to confront them about things they say or do that bother or upset you or is it better to try to ignore those things in order to maintain peace in your relationship?
We had a friend who, due to a misunderstanding, stewed over a comment to such an extent that he returned everything we’d given him as gifts and avoided us on every occasion, even to the point of turning his car round to walk his dog elsewhere rather than park beside us and risk having to say ‘hello’. It was the end of a friendship of more than five years.
I hate confrontation though sometimes appreciate it cannot be avoided. For years, it would be anything for a peaceful life and I’d let things ride, no matter how much it hurt. That came to bite me in the backside as I was treated like a doormat, anything could go or be said as it was assumed I wouldn’t mind or react.
Having discovered some untruths told about me to people who didn’t know me very well, or even know me at all, I put them right in no uncertain terms when the opportunity arose, much to their surprise. Naturally this led to friction elsewhere and that was when my evergreen olive tree with all its branches wilted and died.
Never go to sleep on an argument was something my parents firmly believed in.
Hubby and I may have differences in opinion and sometimes things sound OK in the brain but come out all wrong when exiting the mouth, but we end each day telling the other we love them, and start the new day saying the same.