Are You Likeable?

Now there’s a thought, and one that our friend Rory has thrown at us.

His question for us today is …

What qualities make a person likeable or what makes you like someone else?

“I like to think I’m likeable, I mean I’m one of the nicest people I know.”
I have always respected someone’s honest opinion, but liking someone goes much deeper than that.
I remember years ago a young lad was playing his Mum up and when he didn’t get his own way, accused her of not loving him. She told him she would always love him, but at that particular moment, she didn’t like him very much.
It’s stuck with me because it’s true.

When we first got together, we found it rare to meet ‘nice’ people and more often than not acquaintances only liked us for what we could do for them or for their convenience.
If anyone was nice to us, our first thought was always ‘What do they want?’
That all changed when we bought the boat and we met genuine people, those who were interested in us, not what we had, or what we could do for them. Boaters came from all walks of life, but all had one thing in common………. a boat, and that was enough.
We made friends with so many, and are still in touch with most. They are all a likeable bunch, with an easy laugh and great company to be in. There was no hidden agenda, and if support was needed, it was given without qualification or expectation.

We’ve found a similar haven here. Of course it helps that most of our new friends are dog owners, though there are several that aren’t, yet they are still considered friends.
What are their qualities?
They are themselves. There is no delusion of grandeur, no falsehoods or ulterior motives for gain, they are exactly as they appear, warm, considerate, kind, compassionate, caring, funny, and easy to chat to.
What makes me like someone?
All of the above but when they talk to you, they are looking at you, not over your head, to the side or to the ground. They meet you square on in the eye, and to me, that shows they have nothing to hide.

About pensitivity101

I am a retired number cruncher with a vivid imagination and wacky sense of humour which extends to short stories and poetry. I love to cook and am a bit of a dog whisperer as I get on better with them than people sometimes! We have recently lost our beloved dog Maggie who adopted us as a 7 week old pup in March 2005. We decided to have a photo put on canvas as we had for her predecessor Barney, and now have three pictures of our fur babies on the wall as we found a snapshot of my GSD so had hers done too. From 2014 to 2017 'Home' was a 41 foot narrow boat where we made strong friendships both on and off the water. We were close to nature enjoying swan and duck families for neighbours, and it was a fascinating chapter in our lives. We now reside in a small bungalow on the Lincolnshire coast where we have forged new friendships and interests.
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25 Responses to Are You Likeable?

  1. Paula Light says:

    Well stated! Many people only ACT likable to manipulate others. Then the penny drops…

  2. HappySoul says:

    I relate to that last line. I too trust, or like people who talk eye to eye. Their body language matters a lot. Nice read there 😊

  3. A well-penned post with an abundance of truth.
    Fake friends usually show their true colors with time.
    True friends are there for the long haul – good times and not-so-good times.

  4. Marvelous answers Di – thank you for your honesty – l always trust dog owners, but l usually like their dogs more πŸ™‚

  5. Well said. True friends are harder to come by as we age. IMHO

  6. murisopsis says:

    True friends are rare gems! I have some but this COVID thing is really putting a crimp in our ability to get together!

  7. Carol anne says:

    Yes! Anyone who can look you in the eyes, meet you where your at, and support you and be there for you is likable in my humble opinion! I like honest, real, people!

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