Tale Weaver – #285 – Forgiveness – July 23rd

This week Michael asks us to write our response to the word – ‘forgiveness’.

This can be something you do for another person or something that is done for you or even something you do for yourself.
I was once asked if I would be suspicious should my husband buy me flowers for no apparent reason. I replied no and that he did so quite often anyway as he knew I liked them so would treat me if he saw some. This was met with looks of disbelief as the person posing the question obviously thought it would have to be a peace offering for forgiveness.

We’ve all done something we wish we hadn’t, but does it always lead the way to asking to be forgiven? It depends on circumstances and although they say people forgive and forget, there are some things that simply cannot be forgiven, and I for one do not forget either.
There have been instances when I have been shut out of certain matters which has been both upsetting and hurtful, yet I had been made to feel the guilty party.
How or what other people think of me is their choice and whilst I consider myself incapable of hatred, once my anger and hurt has subsided, I am left feeling indifferent.
I may forgive someone for upsetting me for whatever reason, but I won’t forget.
Life’s too short for holding grudges, but that doesn’t mean to say we can’t be wary. After all, if they’ve done it once, they are more than likely to do it again.

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I am a retired number cruncher with a vivid imagination and wacky sense of humour which extends to short stories and poetry. I love to cook and am a bit of a dog whisperer as I get on better with them than people sometimes! We have recently lost our beloved dog Maggie who adopted us as a 7 week old pup in March 2005. We decided to have a photo put on canvas as we had for her predecessor Barney, and now have three pictures of our fur babies on the wall as we found a snapshot of my GSD so had hers done too. From 2014 to 2017 'Home' was a 41 foot narrow boat where we made strong friendships both on and off the water. We were close to nature enjoying swan and duck families for neighbours, and it was a fascinating chapter in our lives. We now reside in a small bungalow on the Lincolnshire coast where we have forged new friendships and interests.
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12 Responses to Tale Weaver – #285 – Forgiveness – July 23rd

  1. Michael says:

    Wise words Di. Thanks for sharing your thoughts this week.

  2. Aileen says:

    I feel the same way as you do, I forgive but I can’t forget. Once bitten, twice shy and all that! Nice post.

  3. Sadje says:

    It is not easy to forget, though forgiveness can be given

  4. I totally agree. There is one person in particular who has crossed the line with me and although I probably can never forgive and forget I will still be a pleasant person in her presence. I wouldn’t opt to be just as nasty, but like you said, indifferent.

  5. murisopsis says:

    I always refer to it as “workplace civility” – I am polite but I don’t go out of my way to have a conversation or engage the individual except for what is necessary to function. I forgive but forgetting is not in my nature.

  6. Himanshu Pal says:

    Exactly! Nice one, Di!

    I easily forgive if someone accepts their mistake, of course, there is a line to it.

    A great poet, Rahim, said, ”Relationships are like threads, don’t break them, for you can’t repair them and if you do there is always a knot.”

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