Anyone familiar with my blog will know how lucky I am to have Hubby in my life. We are devoted to each other, try not to take each other for granted, and worry about each other.
We’ve had our share of health issues, and at the end of the day have worked together for solutions or plans of attack, never once feeling we are on our own as any decisions are jointly made.
We’ve been together over 31 years. It’s the second marriage for both of us and although things haven’t run smoothly for most of ours, that has been down to circumstances, not our relationship, as the two of us are a united front.
Should one of us be unwell, the other is on hand and if matters get worse, we’re on the phone to the medical services, 999 being a final option. In some cases, we have simply cut out the phone call and driven to A&E. This was all before Covid-19 raised its ugly head.
Imagine then the scenario of a couple who have been together some considerable time and she had been working in a care home where there were multiple infections of residents and staff and 3 deaths.
Both she and her husband were tested for C-19 and proven negative.
That was back in May, and she has not returned to work.
She has now developed a cough, is having difficulty breathing and is generally feeling weak and unwell.
They have spent hours at A&E on two occasions at different hospitals where she had blood tests and Xrays. Her white blood cell count is way over normal and they admit something is wrong, but don’t know what, so THEY SENT HER HOME.
The health service in our town sucks.
The doctor’s surgery is a waste of time and he is putting his trust in the moronic doctors who ‘call them back’ but don’t actually arrange to see her or send her for more tests.
He says he is ‘keeping an eye on her’ and if she gets worse, then he’ll call 111, the alternative service to 999, who IMO basically are little better than our surgery with their advice about staying home and taking paracetamol.
If this were us, we would be on the phone to 111, 999, at A&E, banging on the GP surgery doors demanding at least a consultation and another Covid-19 test, if for no other reason than to rule it out.
It would not be a case of ‘keeping an eye’ on the ill party, we would be proactive and making a nuisance of ourselves trying to get answers.
We have the means to take our blood pressure, temperature and check our oxygen levels as we invested in the kit to do that as a matter of course for our first aid box.
I appreciate the NHS is stretched and there are delays for a number of issues. The reason why I got carted off to hospital with a suspected heart problem a couple of years ago was because I told the paramedics that I was ‘never ill’ and this was totally out of the blue.
Hubby and I know ourselves, and each other, and know when something is not right. We don’t panic and bother anyone unnecessarily, first working through recent events, what we’ve eaten and check our BP etc before we call the professionals. We don’t believe in wasting anyone’s time. Especially now.
But in these circumstances, we would certainly be doing a lot more than waiting for the shit to hit the fan and someone with a brain to make the decision to investigate further.
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I’m with you 100% on this Di. Pretty damn foolish if you ask me. And as for your clinic, they’re horrible at the best of times, which this certainly isn’t. I hope your neighbour is ok. Very scary.
We shall indeed see Fransi, but don’;t understand why he’s not at least pushing the 111 service.
It is odd to be sure.
Holy C**P. I agree. Now is the time for proactive care, not the time to “wait and see.” Especially is symptoms are present.
We sometimes wonder if we actually over react but we do as much as we can for the self diagnosis first.
We are our own best first line of defense.
That’s how we feel. We’re doing the best we can to protect ourselves as basically, nobody else will.
Di , don’t get me started! It’s a nightmare 💜
Breathe Willow. deep calming breaths my friend. You don’t need the anxiety. We think they are foolish, but it’s their life/lives and we are keeping an even wider distance than we did when they had their first C-19 tests.
Okay, deep breaths, count to ten!!
then backwards……………. lol.
Lol 💜
Exactly! If she has COVID she should know it before she is so sick she needs a ventilator! Not to mention then whether her partner is infected too. The testing is really the only way to stop this if they test and then track all the people who have been in contact with the person. I wouldn’t be happy waiting. That is like my doctor telling me my mammogram shows something but it is probably nothing! Really. Um, let’s figure this out before I have full blown cancer! Ugh, sometimes the smart ones are so stupid.
We think they should at least ask to be retested.
Know what you mean about the mammo. Mine turned up something last year which needed further investigation and the clinic were brilliant.
It turned out to be a second strike in that breast so I had to lose it, but it’s not a problem. I’ve healed brilliantly, and just
waiting for my first mammo after the surgery as they’ve reset the clock for another 5 years.
We don’t have a GP service now. It’s at best just a telephone advice line.
I sympathise.
Sometimes the test comes out negative even when the person has Covid-19.
That’s what we’re worried abut
I hope she gets better soon.
us too.
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These are frightening times. It’s nice to hear about true partners. My parents had that for 58 years. My sister is working on 20+. My brother and I never had it. But we both have seen it. Congratulations.
Thanks Pam. Hubby and I are truly blessed to have each other.
Too many forget that doctors are basically employees – hired by the patient to provide a service. Instead they view doctors as “health priests” who can’t be criticized or questioned… I hope he is a little more proactive before she is really too much worse!!
We hope so too.
That’s mad, Di. I wonder if some people are afraid to know the truth so don’t push it?
When it comes to health matters, it’s better to know than wait. You and I both know that don’t we. You OK today?
Yes we do both know that. Not everyone is the samethough, and I guess we just have to say mire fool them, but it does put others at risk if it is Covid. And that makes me angry. But the medical profession too, allowing that to happen. Yes I am ok today thankyou Di. Sorry I haven’t emailed. Will do. I am trying to get some kind of order into my lufe but it feels impossible. Especially with a lazy sod of a husband who makes us live in squalour. I am trying to change that but it is not working very well. Our bed has not been changed since the beginning of locjdown because my sister is not allowed in to change it or hoover up. Plus she muxes all over the place so we’re a bit scared of her coming in. She has a male friend coming over here from Grantham at the weekend, staying in a Bed and. Reajfast socwe DEFO don’t want her in here after that. But we’re struggling. Xx
Don’t worry about emailing, just know I’m available if you want a rant or ‘company’.
Our circumstances as different to yours and I’m lucky that Hubby and I share the chores. I must admit we don’t hoover every day now and it was a shock when we realised we hadn’t washed the duvet covers for a month! We’d done the sheets though!!
Our bed stinks! We wish we could have two single beds in the bedroom instead of the double one, but there isn’t enough room for that. Our house is awful. I am not shrorised I got sick!
I can only sympathise Lorraine. Getting behind with the day to day stuff isn’t too bad, but it soon mounts up and when neither of you are in a position to do it, it’s extremely difficult, My logic would be to bin the linens and buy new! Thing is, you can’t get out to do that.
Catch 22.
I thoughtof that too Di. Still means putting fresh sheet and quilt cover on though. Anyway SUCCESS – see email I just sent you 😀