New Start…….. where and how?

Michael’s challenge this week is to write a response in which you discuss the notion of a ‘New Start’.
No-one gets a second chance to make a first impression, but most of us have been lucky in being able to make a new start one way or another.
But what determines ‘a new start’? Is it a change of location, change of partner, change of lifestyle and a chance to put something right, or is wiping away the past and beginning again?
Moving away from the parental home and county of birth to start a new life with a ready made family after my divorce was a new start for me. I left behind everything and everyone I knew to a place where I knew no-one and no-one knew me. It wasn’t that I was running away from my problems (I’m a firm believer that you can’t and just delay them so face mine head on), but I took a chance, which although backfired in the end, a lot of good actually came out of it.
I learned a lot about me, and after the shit hit the fan, I was given the opportunity to rebuild my life.

A year later, I was strong enough to leave the relationship and return to my roots thanks to Bro and SIL offering me a base until I could sort myself out.
It was another new start, my home town was different and I’d lost contact with my pre-move friends bar one, who as it turned out had changed from the friend I remembered that when we met up, I don’t know who was the most embarrassed.
I was out of work for two days, and threw myself into my new job, not knowing at the time where it would lead and ended up having a career for the first time in my life.

I met Hubby a few months afterwards, and the rest of our story is familiar to my readers.
In 1989, both of us made a new start. Our history started that very first day.
There was nothing we could do to change what had happened previously, so we started from scratch.  There was no ulterior motive, no hidden agenda, we were honest and from that first meeting trusted and liked each other, becoming friends and then so much more.
We both have memories of our former life, but the ones that matter most are those we have made together.

About pensitivity101

I am a retired number cruncher with a vivid imagination and wacky sense of humour which extends to short stories and poetry. I love to cook and am a bit of a dog whisperer as I get on better with them than people sometimes! We have an elderly dog called Maggie who adopted us as a 7 week old pup in March 2005. From 2014 to 2017 'Home' was a 41 foot narrow boat where we made strong friendships both on and off the water. We were close to nature enjoying swan and duck families for neighbours, and it was a fascinating chapter in our lives. We now reside in a small bungalow on the Lincolnshire coast where we have forged new friendships and interests.
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14 Responses to New Start…….. where and how?

  1. Sadje says:

    A new start and it broadened you life and vision.

  2. murisopsis says:

    That one line is the basis for happiness in any life – “There was nothing we could do to change what had happened previously, so we started from scratch.” You are wise beyond words!

  3. Michael says:

    Excellent Di, it easy to dwell in the past but as you say the best memories are those from your present situation, the ones that mean the most to you. Thanks so much for sharing your thoughts this week. Stay safe.

  4. willowdot21 says:

    Well Di what an amazing post. 💜💜

  5. Nima Mohan says:

    Yes Di.. It takes a certain courage to leave behind your past and then move on to build a new life from scratch. And once you could do it, life rewarded you with happiness and your husband. Beautiful writing 🙂 ❤

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