That was then, this is now, and the bits in between…………… ish.
Rory has chosen It was a Very Good Year by Frank Sinatra as a basis for his Q&A post today:
Three distinct years are mentioned in this song of Frank Sinatra’s. I grew up with this song playing in the household and by the time l was indeed 17 l knew it word for word. But l also remember those ages well – 17, 21 and 35 – do you?
Who were you and where were you for those ages – what were the years? Have you changed significantly from the person you were at 17 to the person you were at 35 and were they indeed ‘very good years?’
The bonus question should you wish to answer it is this …. answer the same questions for the ages of 25, 45 and 55. Alternatively looking at the six ages 17, 21, 25, 35, 45 and 55 – have you changed profoundly from the core of who you were at the beginning of the Life journey?’
17, 21, and 35.
When I was seventeen, (1973) I got drunk for the first and only time ever. My mother had to put me to bed and luckily I wasn’t sick, neither did I suffer a hangover.
I got married when I was 21 (1977). My birthday was in May and the husband-to-be bought me a box of chocolates with Happy Easter on it (Easter was at the beginning of April that year).
At thirty five (1991), I’d divorced, lived with a guy and moved out after 8 years, and Hubby and I got married after two years of meeting. Our honeymoon was in Amsterdam, my first time out of the country, and I had a passport!
I had definitely changed significantly over that time, mostly thanks to that 8 year relationship when I learned a lot about village life, myself, double standards, raising a family, trust and the true motives of someone who had lied to me.
25, 45 and 55.
At 25 (1981) my marriage had failed and I had returned to the parental home.
At 45 (2001) it was the year of 9/11 and I was working for an American Bank at the time.
At the end of September, I was made redundant from the job I loved and out of work for three months.
At 55 (2011) I’d been to NZ to see Bro on my own the year before using some of the money from taking an early retirement package 5 years previously. If I hadn’t, I would have lost it as the Bank was sold and only existing pensioners were on the payroll.