Happy birthday Mum 2020

My Mum would have been 98 today.
She would have loved to see the ducklings and goslings here.

Photos taken February 2017

I remember the year Mum came up for a holiday when we were in the cottage and stayed for 9 weeks. For the first time in years it meant we were together not just for our anniversary and my birthday, but also Mum’s.
I baked her a cake as she was watching a DVD and have a picture of her somewhere blowing out the candle on top. She was over the moon and it was a smashing day.

We had several holidays with her there, and each time we’d include her in whatever we were doing, from walking the dog, shopping or going to the ladies group I belonged to. She was so easy going and easy to please, and the first time she came up kept getting lost and ending up in the kitchen as she couldn’t find her bedroom. We put battery PIRs in the lounge, hall, dining room and kitchen to guide her, and she slept extremely well throughout her stay.
We took her to The Pilgrim Memorial where we could walk the dog along the banks for the River Witham. There were no tea rooms or anything,Β  but it was a pleasant walk, provided you were aware of the cowpats and gave the steamy ones a wide berth!

We took her to The Stump in Boston where we lit candles for the Dads, and also to an all-you-could-eat Chinese Buffet where she was game to sample a variety of dishes, favouring the sweet and sour chicken, chicken batter balls, and boiled rice. Such happy days.

Mum was moved into a care home in September 2017, and we managed to visit her once in December. She had a fall and broke her wrist on Christmas Eve and ended up in hospital.
Sadly as her dementia had worsened, the care home were unable to take care of her needs and a placement needed to be found for her in a nursing home. Because of the distance, I could only write which I did twice a week though I did ring her a few times. She passed away on January 18th.

I had a dream about her shortly afterwards, and we were changing her bed. I noticed that her sheets were threadbare and I said she ought to think about replacing them.
She stood there and said
‘Somehow Di, I don’t think that really matters now.’
That was so typical of Mum, and even though I woke up in tears, it made me smile.

Bless her.
Happy birthday Mum, we shall be lighting a candle for you today.

Photo September 2016

About pensitivity101

I am a retired number cruncher with a vivid imagination and wacky sense of humour which extends to short stories and poetry. I love to cook and am a bit of a dog whisperer as I get on better with them than people sometimes! We have recently lost our beloved dog Maggie who adopted us as a 7 week old pup in March 2005. We decided to have a photo put on canvas as we had for her predecessor Barney, and now have three pictures of our fur babies on the wall as we found a snapshot of my GSD so had hers done too. From 2014 to 2017 'Home' was a 41 foot narrow boat where we made strong friendships both on and off the water. We were close to nature enjoying swan and duck families for neighbours, and it was a fascinating chapter in our lives. We now reside in a small bungalow on the Lincolnshire coast where we have forged new friendships and interests.
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34 Responses to Happy birthday Mum 2020

  1. pendantry says:

    Sorry to hear of your loss.

    • Thank you. Sometimes it seems longer than it is because of the dementia, others like yesterday. She’s with me every day though, looking back at me from the mirror.

  2. Kritika says:

    Happy Birthday πŸ™‚

  3. Made me smile as well. Lovely memories. Happy birthday mum.

  4. Sadje says:

    Lovely post Di. She had a wonderful and caring daughter.

  5. fransiweinstein says:

    A lovely story about your mom Di. She had a beautiful smile and the love you had for each other is clearly visible in these photos.

  6. quiall says:

    A lovely tribute to a lovely woman.

  7. murisopsis says:

    What wonderful memories! You inherited her warm smile. I’m sorry she has moved beyond the veil but I’m certain she is looking down with loving eyes…

  8. that was beautiful. Thanks for sharing a bit of your beloved mum with us today!

  9. Such warm memories. They are the only thing that we’ll have to remember them by when they are gone. I’m sorry to hear about your loss. It was lovely to read about her. I’m sure that she’ll be happy and proud of you.

  10. willowdot21 says:

    Mostly beautiful memories, and wow don’t you look like your Mum πŸ’œπŸ’œ

  11. STEPHEN TANHAM says:

    Beautiful picture and memories, Pensitivity.

    • Thanks Steve. Mum and Dad are foremost in my mind more than ever this month as Dad passed away on May 13th 1996 as well as it being Mum’s birthday yesterday.

  12. Michael says:

    My dad would have been the same age on May 6th. 1922 was a good year it would seem. Great memories Di.

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