Photos taken February 2017
I remember the year Mum came up for a holiday when we were in the cottage and stayed for 9 weeks. For the first time in years it meant we were together not just for our anniversary and my birthday, but also Mum’s.
I baked her a cake as she was watching a DVD and have a picture of her somewhere blowing out the candle on top. She was over the moon and it was a smashing day.
We had several holidays with her there, and each time we’d include her in whatever we were doing, from walking the dog, shopping or going to the ladies group I belonged to. She was so easy going and easy to please, and the first time she came up kept getting lost and ending up in the kitchen as she couldn’t find her bedroom. We put battery PIRs in the lounge, hall, dining room and kitchen to guide her, and she slept extremely well throughout her stay.
We took her to The Pilgrim Memorial where we could walk the dog along the banks for the River Witham. There were no tea rooms or anything, but it was a pleasant walk, provided you were aware of the cowpats and gave the steamy ones a wide berth!
We took her to The Stump in Boston where we lit candles for the Dads, and also to an all-you-could-eat Chinese Buffet where she was game to sample a variety of dishes, favouring the sweet and sour chicken, chicken batter balls, and boiled rice. Such happy days.
Mum was moved into a care home in September 2017, and we managed to visit her once in December. She had a fall and broke her wrist on Christmas Eve and ended up in hospital.
Sadly as her dementia had worsened, the care home were unable to take care of her needs and a placement needed to be found for her in a nursing home. Because of the distance, I could only write which I did twice a week though I did ring her a few times. She passed away on January 18th.
I had a dream about her shortly afterwards, and we were changing her bed. I noticed that her sheets were threadbare and I said she ought to think about replacing them.
She stood there and said
‘Somehow Di, I don’t think that really matters now.’
That was so typical of Mum, and even though I woke up in tears, it made me smile.
Happy birthday Mum, we shall be lighting a candle for you today.