Tale Weaver – #266 – Backbone – 12th March

Michael’s Tale Weaver challenge this week is to consider what ‘backbone’ means to you. Some people are said to illustrate backbone in making tough decisions.

You could make reference to the literal meaning, the bone that helps you stand straight.

Go where the prompt takes you, have fun with it

I’ve made no secret of the fact that I hate conflict and would rather walk away than ensue an argument now.
However, there are times when we don’t have a choice, and after years of turning the other cheek or allowing ourselves to be treated as a doormat, suddenly the worm turns and our pent up frustrations and anger are given full vent much to the surprise of those who have treated us badly.

The word NO may be short, but it is oh so powerful.
In my experience, it comes with a price tag, that being friendship, but in hindsight, those relationships were far from it.
Convenience, fair weather, users, call them what you will, we seemed to attract those types in particular, be it our wish to feel we belonged, wanting to be liked or desire for social contact, we would comply with their demands and conditions of membership to their circle.
We said NO on a number of occasions to several individuals and like hot potatoes found ourselves dropped without ceremony or explanation. It hurt, but what hurt more was what was being said about us to others, those who didn’t know us, or hadn’t even met us!

It wasn’t until we were waiting for the sale of our house to go through that people began to associate the black and white dog that didn’t go into farmers fields with us, that we were no relation to our neighbour, and those slagging us off were just angry at us for having the backbone to stand up to them and not be at their beck and call.

Today it is so very different. I’m not afraid to say NO to keep the peace or keep a friend.
In the boating world, it didn’t matter if you were rich or poor, drove a porche or rode a pushbike, we all had one thing in common, we owned a boat. We made friends both on and off the water and are still in touch with some of them.
We have made friends here too (most having one thing in common, dogs!) and people will say Hi or pass the time of day when we meet each other on our walks.

David Banner said
‘Don’t make me angry. You won’t like me when I’m angry.’
I guess you could say he had the biggest backbone of all.

About pensitivity101

I am a retired number cruncher with a vivid imagination and wacky sense of humour which extends to short stories and poetry. I love to cook and am a bit of a dog whisperer as I get on better with them than people sometimes! We have an elderly dog called Maggie who adopted us as a 7 week old pup in March 2005. From 2014 to 2017 'Home' was a 41 foot narrow boat where we made strong friendships both on and off the water. We were close to nature enjoying swan and duck families for neighbours, and it was a fascinating chapter in our lives. We now reside in a small bungalow on the Lincolnshire coast where we have forged new friendships and interests.
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11 Responses to Tale Weaver – #266 – Backbone – 12th March

  1. Michael says:

    Thanks for your thoughts Di, its not easy showing some backbone after years of as you say being treated like a doormat.Glad you’ve been able to move on.

  2. This is a great post, Di. Well done to you. I am also starting to say no much more often.

  3. Sadje says:

    Learning to stand up for yourself and saying no is a whole bunch of education in itself. But once learned, it is priceless.

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