I was listening to a radio programme yesterday where a woman was being interviewed about methods of weight loss.
She was right when she said there was a lot of money to be made from the Diet Business, and although what works for one doesn’t necessarily work for everyone, some companies capitalise on the successes and suggest it works for all.
The interviewee went on to say she was coming back from a specialised photo shoot feeling on cloud nine and very positive about herself when a guy came into her train carriage and rudely announced that he was not going to sit next to ‘Fatty in the corner’.
Naturally she was immediately deflated.
It got me thinking and agreeing with her that self image is as important if not more so than our actual weight and how we perceive ourselves and our bodies.
At the moment, I am happy with my weight, but not my body shape, but you can’t have it all ways I suppose and I have a lot of other things going for me so it’s not affecting my confidence.
I sort of lost quite a bit of what was said after that as we were looking for somewhere to park for our appointments, but it appears that there is a new way to ‘weight watching’ which is proving popular. This is more of a One on One consultation compared to being weighed in front of everyone, and losses (or gains) discussed in a group, though with SW, no-one is made to feel a failure or shamed if the scales go in the wrong direction.
I couldn’t grasp how this would work in large numbers, then found myself thinking about an episode of 1970s sitcom The Good Life where Margo Leadbetter (Penelope Keith) pays regular visits to someone behind a green door (Season 4, episode 2) and Tom and Barbara wonder if she is having an affair.
In my opinion, we have to feel comfortable with ourselves regardless of how other people see us, and if we decide to lose weight, it is for US, not because we’ve been told to, it’s the latest fashion or because all our friends are doing it.
Just because we are on the heavy side of that blasted ‘Experts Chart’ doesn’t mean to say that we are lazy, unfit, or have a lousy diet. However, if someone goes on at us long enough and hard enough they can shatter any self esteem we have as we come to believe what they are saying. My MIL was tactless in her criticisms of me, but I never gave her the satisfaction of seeing me cry. She was a fine one to talk anyway as she had her own weight problems but would be forever eating cakes, biscuits and ready meals or prepacked sandwiches rather than cook herself a well balanced meal.
In 2001, I tipped the scales at 18½ stone (259 pounds, 117.5 kg). In 2010, I had dropped to 16¼ stone (227 pounds, 103 kg).
When I joined SW in 2016, I hit the scales at 15 stone 9½ pounds (220 pounds, 99.8 kg) and I am now two and a half stone lighter than that (and still working on it).
I have always been a ‘big girl’ though you say that to some guys and they automatically think big boobs, of which I was never blessed, especially now!
Grammar School started my descent into dieting to extremes and screwing up my system over the years. I have tried all kinds of weight loss plans, and although some worked in the short term, most didn’t work at all. At last I have finally found something that works for me and I’m sticking with it.
Many of us, men and women, don’t like to discuss our weight and I noticed at group last night that we have several new members, men outnumbering women on a ratio of 2 : 1.
One lady who joined the group a couple of weeks after me last year has just picked up her four and half stone loss certificate. She looks amazing.
I think a One on One consultation has many merits though, as it is more personal, specific, and more importantly, private.