A different kind of Weight Watcher

I was listening to a radio programme yesterday where a woman was being interviewed about methods of weight loss.
She was right when she said there was a lot of money to be made from the Diet Business, and although what works for one doesn’t necessarily work for everyone, some companies capitalise on the successes and suggest it works for all.
The interviewee went on to say she was coming back from a specialised photo shoot feeling on cloud nine and very positive about herself when a guy came into her train carriage and rudely announced that he was not going to sit next to ‘Fatty in the corner’.
Naturally she was immediately deflated.

It got me thinking and agreeing with her that self image is as important if not more so than our actual weight and how we perceive ourselves and our bodies.
At the moment, I am happy with my weight, but not my body shape, but you can’t have it all ways I suppose and I have a lot of other things going for me so it’s not affecting my confidence.

I sort of lost quite a bit of what was said after that as we were looking for somewhere to park for our appointments, but it appears that there is a new way to ‘weight watching’ which is proving popular. This is more of a One on One consultation compared to being weighed in front of everyone, and losses (or gains) discussed in a group, though with SW, no-one is made to feel a failure or shamed if the scales go in the wrong direction.
I couldn’t grasp how this would work in large numbers, then found myself thinking about an episode of 1970s sitcom The Good Life where Margo Leadbetter (Penelope Keith) pays regular visits to someone behind a green door (Season 4, episode 2) and Tom and Barbara wonder if she is having an affair.

In my opinion,  we have to feel comfortable with ourselves regardless of how other people see us, and if we decide to lose weight, it is for US, not because we’ve been told to, it’s the latest fashion or because all our friends are doing it.
Just because we are on the heavy side of that blasted ‘Experts Chart’ doesn’t mean to say that we are lazy, unfit, or have a lousy diet. However, if someone goes on at us long enough and hard enough they can shatter any self esteem we have as we come to believe what they are saying. My MIL was tactless in her criticisms of me, but I never gave her the satisfaction of seeing me cry. She was a fine one to talk anyway as she had her own weight problems but would be forever eating cakes, biscuits and ready meals or prepacked sandwiches rather than cook herself a well balanced meal.

In 2001, I tipped the scales at 18½ stone (259 pounds, 117.5 kg). In 2010, I had dropped to 16¼ stone (227 pounds, 103 kg).
When I joined SW in 2016, I hit the scales at 15 stone 9½ pounds (220 pounds, 99.8 kg) and I am now two and a half stone lighter than that (and still working on it).
I have always been a ‘big girl’ though you say that to some guys and they automatically think big boobs, of which I was never blessed, especially now!
Grammar School started my descent into dieting to extremes and screwing up my system over the years. I have tried all kinds of weight loss plans, and although some worked in the short term, most didn’t work at all. At last I have finally found something that works for me and I’m sticking with it.
Many of us, men and women, don’t like to discuss our weight and I noticed at group last night that we have several new members, men outnumbering women on a ratio of 2 : 1.
One lady who joined the group a couple of weeks after me last year has just picked up her four and half stone loss certificate. She looks amazing.
I think a One on One consultation has many merits though, as it is more personal, specific, and more importantly, private.

About pensitivity101

I am a retired number cruncher with a vivid imagination and wacky sense of humour which extends to short stories and poetry. I love to cook and am a bit of a dog whisperer as I get on better with them than people sometimes! We have recently lost our beloved dog Maggie who adopted us as a 7 week old pup in March 2005. We decided to have a photo put on canvas as we had for her predecessor Barney, and now have three pictures of our fur babies on the wall as we found a snapshot of my GSD so had hers done too. From 2014 to 2017 'Home' was a 41 foot narrow boat where we made strong friendships both on and off the water. We were close to nature enjoying swan and duck families for neighbours, and it was a fascinating chapter in our lives. We now reside in a small bungalow on the Lincolnshire coast where we have forged new friendships and interests.
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19 Responses to A different kind of Weight Watcher

  1. Sadje says:

    This is so true that people are making millions out of this weight loss business. And that there is no one formula fits everyone magic.

  2. colinandray says:

    There is a whole range of businesses whose goal is to make money from intimidation. The advertising generally presents that “everybody” now has (e.g.) gleaming white teeth, and is designed to make you feel that you must do something about your teeth. The fashion industry is a huge manipulator, as are so many others … including the weight loss businesses.
    The key is to be secure in yourself so that you do, wear, own, whatever pleases you … and not what pleases others. The whole concept of “people pleasing” is flawed because you cannot possibly please everybody!
    However, it’s not that easy because when you decide on what you want; who you are etc. etc., then you must accept responsibility for that decision.
    Example: An individual is a heavy smoker and feels that if they want to smoke, then that’s their business. They are right, but then they must accept that some people will be offended by the smoke. They must also accept that odds of dying of cancer is vastly increased.
    I guess the bottom line is to be sufficiently secure in yourself such that outside approvals are not needed, and any questionable lifestyle habits are compromised to some degree to encourage a healthy life.
    That’s it … I’m done!

  3. fransiweinstein says:

    For me what’s important is that whatever you do diet-wise, it should be healthy. After that, it’s whichever kind of system works best for you, and you can afford, is your personal choice. What does piss me off is companies who exploit people who want/need to lose weight.

  4. tidalscribe says:

    Eat less and do more is what it comes down to, but we are all different, my mother used to bake Dad a rich fruit cake every week and he ate a slice for supper every night and always stayed thin, Mum was more cuddly, but dad use to say ‘who wants to go to bed with a mechano set!

  5. Paula Light says:

    I don’t like to give out my weight because it’s very low. But that’s deceptive, since my measurements are not “skinny” due to lack of being fit. However once people see/hear that number, they think “skinny!” I look normal though… maybe 15-25 pounds higher than that number. I would like to get more fit and am trying, but it’s difficult with the chronic pain. Doing my best!

  6. Weight isn’t one of my problems (trust me I have others!) but I have friends who struggle. Seems like it’s harder for older women than it is for men. You are right though. There is no one right method. People should do what works for them. You are to be commended. Even though you talk about cheating, you seem to be holding your own. You have done a great job of losing weight.

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