Topic: Music Therapy

Just adding my thoughts on Beckie’s post
July 31, 2019 “Working on Us” This Weeks Mental Health Prompts for Blogging Community: Week 9 Topic: Music Therapy, How Does Music Affect You?

My choice to listen to is varied, but I have enjoyed Nat King Cole, Moody Blues, Pink Floyd, The Carpenters,  Mike Oldfield, Il Divo, Dido, Diana Ross, Michael Jackson, Abba, Susan Boyle, Andy Williams, Phil Collins and Leona Lewis to name just a few.

But when I have been stressed, anxious or worried, my own music has been my safety valve.
My Dad would always say he knew when I had something on my mind as it wasn’t what I played that gave me away, but the way I played it. I have several ‘set pieces’ I use for exercises, such as The Spirit is Willing, Ode to Joy and My Grandfather’s Clock, as these can be uptempo or relaxed depending on my mood. Changing the odd chord from major to minor can alter the entire melody, and I used to do that a lot too, slowing things down and emphasising different phrases of a chosen piece.

I have a natural gift of being able to play by ear, which is inherited from my father and possibly my maternal grandmother who played by what was known as ‘soh, fah, te’ .
My Mum could only play by reading music, and my sister found it very difficult so gave up. I don’t think she plays anything now unless she decided to keep Mum’s piano when she died.
I have been told my music has brought a lot of pleasure to a lot of people, and although I play more for myself, if someone wants to listen then that’s OK.

Thirty two years ago my music was my lifeline.
It was the one good thing I liked about myself when I was putting my life back together with the help of a good GP and a caring boss. Things were going down the toilet and I was following them.
I distinctly remember getting up in the early hours, plugging in my headphones and playing, of all things, hymns I remembered from school.
I am not a religious person per se, I believe in something that is greater than all of us, and that when this life finishes, there is something else where we are united with our loved ones. I do not knock anyone’s faith as I know first hand of someone whose faith got them out of being bedridden for 26 years and living to be 104.
I played for at least two hours, and in that time, I felt someone was beside me, looking out for me, and letting me know I was not alone in my time of despair.

On only two occasions has my music made me cry.
Once was about eight years ago when I feel I was at the top of my game sotospeak and was playing the best I ever had, or ever will. The other was when I sat at the keyboard and played The Wind Beneath My Wings at the time I knew my Mum’s ashes were being scattered. It was her favourite piece and I played it for her whenever we were together.

Don’t laugh, but Maggie (our dog) was brought up with a specific CD of instrumentals and still falls asleep to it before the end of track three. We have used it to help calm her in thunderstorms or when there have been local fireworks.

Music has, and always will be, an important part of my life. Although I was never given it as therapy when going through my depression, it was certainly therapeutic when I needed something constructive and positive as a foundation for rebuilding my life and making me the person I am now.


About pensitivity101

I am a retired number cruncher with a vivid imagination and wacky sense of humour which extends to short stories and poetry. I love to cook and am a bit of a dog whisperer as I get on better with them than people sometimes! In November 2020, we lost our beloved Maggie who adopted us as a 7 week old pup in March 2005. We decided to have a photo put on canvas as we had for her predecessor Barney. We now have three pictures of our fur babies on the wall as we found a snapshot of Kizzy, my GSD when Hubby and I first met so had hers done too. On February 24th 2022 we were blessed to find Maya, a 13 week old GSD pup who has made her own place in our hearts. You can follow our training methods, photos and her growth in my blog posts. From 2014 to 2017 'Home' was a 41 foot narrow boat where we made strong friendships both on and off the water. We were close to nature enjoying swan and duck families for neighbours, and it was a fascinating chapter in our lives. We now reside in a small bungalow on the Lincolnshire coast where we have forged new friendships and interests.
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19 Responses to Topic: Music Therapy

  1. Tara R. says:

    I have always regretted never learning how to play a musical instrument. Though, I can understand how playing can be a refuge.

  2. pgraysurvival says:

    Driving rain on a window or rain on canvas when snuggled down in a tent.
    Add forest sounds in the wind, a gentle piano, and owl song.
    But how to guarantee that for every night?
    YouTube, and a USB key with 3 hours of something I never get to listen to fully as 15 minutes into it I fall asleep.

  3. Hello, Tara! First, I would like to thank you for participating in Week #9, “Working on Us” -So far you are the first one that has written in and can play an instrument. I would have loved to be able to play the piano. You are most certainly gifted.
    I can most certainly understand why you would cry during both events in your life, I don’t even think I would have had the strength nor the frame of mind to do it, for which again… I give you an enormous amount of credit.
    You mention your dog Maggie’s reaction to music. This is so true, animals can sense music and can relax to it as well as humans can. M parrot, Peanut loves music. All sorts of music for that matter. He must because he has learned to sing plenty of songs that I sang along to.
    Thank you again, for being a part of this series… It means a great deal to many that read this.
    Take Care & God Bless

  4. Reblogged this on Beckie's Mental Mess and commented:
    REBLOG: Tara of “Pensitivity101” Shares not only how she related to certain types of music, but can play piano as well. She responded to Week #9 of “Working on Us” A truly beautiful post.

  5. Sadje says:

    What a beautiful talent to have.

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