Sometimes it’s best to keep quiet

I’m a firm believer in that if you can’t say something nice about someone, then keep quiet.
This was brought home to me years ago in the bank when I was angry about a co-worker and voicing my opinion about his ineptitude to the assistant manager. I was totally unaware that the lad was standing directly behind me and heard every word. He was crestfallen and I felt a right bitch, especially as it turned out not to be his fault due to a lack of training.
There is a time and a place, and although the time may have been right, the place, in an open office, was all wrong. I apologised and offered to help as anyone I trained had been good at their job once they understood the basics of what they were doing. This lad was no different and became very proficient within a few months.

I follow around 150 bloggers on a variety of sites and themes. Animals and pets play a large part obviously, but I love nature, photography, poetry, short fiction and family life.
I try to be honest and upfront here in Pensitivity101, and would not intentionally offend or hurt anyone. I have quite rightly been taken to task on a couple of occasions when what I meant was not worded very well, or the point I was trying to make had been completely misunderstood. I am grateful to those readers who brought me up on that.

The number of people who follow me goes up and down like a yoyo. I can’t understand why commercial sites are interested in what I write other than trying to boost their own ratings by ‘following blogs’ to gain more exposure. If those sites were to drop me tomorrow, I’d probably lose well over half of my followers, but that doesn’t worry me.
It’s people who are my blogging family, those who read and comment, be it once a day, once a week, once a month or whenever. I notice if it’s been a while between your posts or comments, and glad to hear from you and know you’re still about.
I love the interaction blogging brings, and happy to read another point of view or perspective on something I’ve written.  I’ll laugh, cry and commiserate with you too.

Some posts I read I don’t understand as the content goes straight over my head, I don’t see the joke, or simply don’t agree with what has been written. Sometimes I may see an unintentional joke and really put my foot in it! We don’t have to like everything we read, but if we don’t, there’s no need to be nasty about it. Neither is there any reason to be downright rude and spiteful just for the hell of it.
As I said at the beginning, if you can’t say something nice, say nothing (unless of course your opinion was actually asked for).

About pensitivity101

I am a retired number cruncher with a vivid imagination and wacky sense of humour which extends to short stories and poetry. I love to cook and am a bit of a dog whisperer as I get on better with them than people sometimes! We have an elderly dog called Maggie who adopted us as a 7 week old pup in March 2005. From 2014 to 2017 'Home' was a 41 foot narrow boat where we made strong friendships both on and off the water. We were close to nature enjoying swan and duck families for neighbours, and it was a fascinating chapter in our lives. We now reside in a small bungalow on the Lincolnshire coast where we have forged new friendships and interests.
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23 Responses to Sometimes it’s best to keep quiet

  1. Sadje says:

    How right you are. Sometimes I don’t know what to say in a comment so I just like and move on. I always enjoy your posts, jokes and anecdotes. 😃😍

  2. I agree with you. You don’t have to be nasty if you don’t like it. You can be negative, first make a positive comment and make your negative comment.

  3. colinandray says:

    I was going to comment …………………………………… ! 🙂

  4. I learned early on that I wouldn’t like everything someone has written. Maybe it’s the topic or the point of view. Maybe I don’t have the time. The same is true of me. Sometimes I write rubbish or it isn’t worded clearly enough to get my point across. I once was taken to task by someone who said I was making fun of old people. I am one and I mostly make fun of myself or the oddities of aging. What you said is golden. If you can’t say something nice, scroll on.

  5. colonialist says:

    In trying to pussy-foot around other bloggers one may also remember that they have signed on for the ride, bumpy bits and all. By the same token I enjoy insufferably rude comments because they give an opportunity to respond with a suitably genteel squelch.

  6. I do worry sometimes if my comments can be misconstrued. As a writer, I hope to get my point across, but you can never know how someone may interpret it. On the other hand, some folks don’t care. My being a smart-ass doesn’t help. That frequently doesn’t translate in this medium. Hope it’s not something that’s upset you too much.

  7. TanGental says:

    Quite. It can be a difficult balance but Well done for keeping on trying

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