FOWC with Fandango — Detrimental

I often wonder how I would have turned out had I not passed my 11 + and attended grammar school.
I can’t remember being over-confident as a young child, but whatever confidence I had was knocked out of me between 1967 and 1972.
Was it education or the teachers and their methods that had a detrimental effect on me?
The clincher was being told I didn’t have the brains to work in a bank by the careers teacher. Ha. In later life, I served her from First Till position in a High Street bank, though I wish I could have proven to her just how well I did my analytical job for the American Bank I worked for.
They say sticks and stones may break bones but names will never hurt you.
Yeah, right. Just think of the potential quashed by a few words and an elder’s attitude.
Tell someone they’re a low life often enough and they believe it.
Been there, done that, but I came back fighting.

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I am a retired number cruncher with a vivid imagination which extends to short stories and poetry. I love to cook and am a bit of a dog whisperer as I get on better with them than people sometimes! Due to a nightmare of a house sale in 2014, 'Home' was a 41 foot narrow boat until April 2017. We made strong friendships both on and off the water, and enjoyed swan and duck families for neighbours. Sadly times change and we now reside in a small bungalow a short distance from the beach on the Lincolnshire coast.
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8 Responses to FOWC with Fandango — Detrimental

  1. Sadje says:

    That’s great! Absolutely right that putting labels and casting aspersions can damage a person’s self esteem. 👍😉

  2. I am frequently amazed by how much I managed to retain from my schooldays as most of the time I spent looking out the window daydreaming!

  3. blindzanygirl says:

    That is really interesting Di and I had almost exactly the same experience with my headmaster at school. When I was in the sixth form he told me that I was not degree material. I therefore had to find some kind of job upon leaving school. However when I was in my 40s I had the opportunity to embark upon a degree. To me this thing called a degree was mysterious. I wondered just what it was because I had been told that I was not degree material. I wish that my old headmaster was still alive because I went on to get a first class Oxford honours degree and then a Masters and from there I went on to begin a PhD. Sadly I was unable to finish this because my father died and my concentration was far too interrupted to complete the PhD. I know just what you mean about being told that you are low life. Good on you Di. You and I together have proved these people wrong. We fought on and won! Just goes to show how much headmasters really know. Great post Di, x

    • Thanks Lorraine.
      I have no paper qualifications (3 O levels!) as I am more of a hands on person, but whatever job I was employed to do, I have done well and been a tough act to follow.

      • blindzanygirl says:

        Just Goes to show doesn’t Di, we always show ‘em in the end. Mine was put to good practical use as well. My god I wish he was here to tell lol

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