Invited or otherwise? I’ve experienced both.
First and foremost I am pleased to report that our uninvited guests have hopped off to pastures new. It has taken over two months but we shall still be going through the motions on a regular basis as a matter of course and precautionary measure.
So how about an invited guest?
When I was about to move away after my divorce, I invited a work colleague and his fiancée to join my new partner and I for dinner at a restaurant.
In hindsight, I can see how this was misunderstood as I ended up footing the bill for the four of us to the tune of some £60 including drinks.
The last comment of the evening was ‘Thanks, we’ll do the same for you next time.’
Well, the ‘next time’ came when I’d moved in with said partner and invited them up for the weekend.
It was discussed going out for a meal (she was a faddy eater who I’d class as an irregular vegetarian) and agreed on who was expected to pay.
Partner and I ordered our usual prawn cocktail, rump steak, and black forest gateaux. He ordered the same as us, she had a large cheese and biscuits.
I paid for our drinks as and when we had them, knowing full well Partner would drink the night away especially as he wasn’t paying.
The meal was very nice and reasonably priced, which is why we’d picked that particular restaurant.
The bill came, and she got out a pad and pencil.
When he asked what she was doing, she said working out who had to pay for what.
I was embarrassed, especially when Partner said tactlessly and slightly slurred that they were paying as we (read that as I) paid last time.
Livid, she flounced off to the ladies, Partner disappeared for a smoke, and I was left to sort out the misunderstanding.
I told him it was OK and that I’d pay our half if he was financially embarrassed but he said not to worry, he could cover it and it was only right that they returned the favour.
It was a horrible trip home, and she went storming off to bed on her own. He meekly followed.
They left early the next day not even having breakfast, and I never heard from them again.