WTF? I really saw red at this!!!!
A couple of years after I first married (1977), a work colleague showed me his wedding list.
Washing machine, cooker, tumble dryer, fridge freezer, lawn mower, colour TV, video player, to name but a few and such a far cry from my bed linen, towels, mugs, pots and pans. The most expensive thing I got I think was a hand-held electric mixer and I was pleased to have it.
To me, this is a case of wanting something fancy but expecting everyone else to pay for it. It’s a bit like inviting someone to lunch and asking them to bring their own sandwiches.
FYI: NZ$ 1700 equates to £850 and a few pence (NZ$ 1000 is £500).
Sure, having been a couple for a number of years, traditional wedding gifts are probably impractical as they have most, if not all, of the usual stuff, so by all means a cash gift is more acceptable.
But, MY DEAR, you do NOT dictate to your potential guests how much and then sulk because you don’t get your own way.
And as for saying
“I mean seriously people, what is $1000? What is $1500? Clearly not a lot. It would be quite manageable and within budget.”
Well, MY DEAR, £850 is three times my monthly income.
£850 is half our annual food bill for the pair of us and the dog.
£850 will keep our modest car on the road.
£850 is two thirds of our local taxes.
£850 is our annual water, heating and lighting bill.
If you were so intent on having a Dream Wedding MY DEAR, then you should have saved harder for it, or tailored your tastes to your purse, not expect everyone else to fork out. I certainly, and my friends, would not have accepted your conditional invite. I’m glad I don’t know you.
So you have deleted your FB account. Good for you. Your friends are better off without you, until you can appreciate that everyone has the right to be as generous as they can afford and not kowtow to someone as greedy as you obviously are. Friendship and loyalty should not have a price tag.
The more I read her tirade directed at her friends, the angrier I got.
Yeah, it’s nice to have a special day with friends and family to celebrate, but a big blow out? She could have managed a personal and more intimate celebration with NZ$ 15,000.
I don’t blame her matron of honour for giving her no sympathy, or for her bridesmaids to give her the cold shoulder too. Her attitude is way out of order and I hope she enjoys her two months away on her own. Maybe she’ll get her head straight, but I seriously doubt if her friends or ex partner will be waiting for her.
And what about her son?
I’ve categorised this as fiction as I cannot believe someone could actually behave like this!
Note: we had a lovely wedding day in 1991, our seven guests being people who were important to us as we didn’t want or need the extravagance of a big affair. Including our four day honeymoon in Amsterdam, we got change out of five hundred pounds.
One of the best days of my life.