Beware the Indifference

I am incapable of hate, but can come pretty close.
Disliking something or someone immensely is probably the nearest I’ll get, but even that doesn’t last.
I have a temper, but learned a long time ago to keep it in check. Sure I can swear and shout as well as the next person, but at the end of the day it doesn’t solve anything.
What happened, happened. I can’t change it, I couldn’t prevent it, and I couldn’t stop it.

I was angry. Oh boy, was I.
Red rag to a bull (and yes, I am a Taurean) doesn’t even begin to cover it, but hey, we had to deal with the problem.
Some people might think we overreacted, took a sledgehammer to a walnut or a rifle to a fly, type of thing.

To backtrack a little.

The sofa bed was bought second hand when we moved in and a solution should we have visitors who wished to stay over. We had intended to replace the mattress (£100 or thereabouts) as the one inside was worn and marked, but it was clean, so I put a new duvet cover over it which smartened it up 1000%.
We had already replaced the cushions, and purchased a large throw over to go with our two easy chairs which are chocolate brown. It would have done us until we decided what kind of suite, if any, we would get.

We have sprayed, fogged, misted, sprinkled, debugged, hoovered endlessly and daily this week. We have planned accordingly and marked the diary for our next treatments over the coming months.
We have got rid of bedding, the throw-over and towels, some of which were new and included Maggie’s bed (she has a nice big new cushion now), the mattress and cover being tossed into the garden the day the soft upholstery was treated again.

My anger changed to annoyance within a few days.
Annoyance at the inconvenience, annoyance at the attitude (it was seen as amusing and my exact response was ‘It’s a pain in the f*****g arse!),  annoyance at the disrespect to us and our home, and annoyance at an added expense that we didn’t really need.

Anyway, we decided we’d spend no more good money on it, taking it outside to dismantle and remove the metal framework, then buried the hatchet by taking a saw to it.
We are so glad we did.

There were a number of unhatched eggs inside the wooden frame, plus shed castings on the upholstery and also the duvet cover on the mattress when we went to bag it up.
I cringe just thinking about it.
The little sods had had a week to start their cycle before we discovered them, though I am thankful that I’d hoovered the house twice every day for the duration of our visitors’ stay. It may have helped contain a problem we didn’t know we had at the time.

We’ve done yet another load of clothes washing and had showers again after our work outside.
I’ve reorganised the lounge and hoovered every square inch of carpet. We are in no hurry to get a suite, there are no soft furnishings in here now, and everything is open. The wooden framework has been burnt, and the rest of the offending article, with any free loaders, is down the tip. The car has been sprayed, though we were careful to put everything in bags and seal them first.

My annoyance changed to resignation as to what had to be done and the sooner the better.
Hubby is still fuming, but together we are getting it sorted, just as we always do. We have checked Maggie again and will continue to do so daily. She is still clear.

Now I am indifferent, and from me, that is worse than thinking about someone one way or the other.


About pensitivity101

I am a retired number cruncher with a vivid imagination and wacky sense of humour which extends to short stories and poetry. I love to cook and am a bit of a dog whisperer as I get on better with them than people sometimes! In November 2020, we lost our beloved Maggie who adopted us as a 7 week old pup in March 2005. We decided to have a photo put on canvas as we had for her predecessor Barney. We now have three pictures of our fur babies on the wall as we found a snapshot of Kizzy, my GSD when Hubby and I first met so had hers done too. On February 24th 2022 we were blessed to find Maya, a 13 week old GSD pup who has made her own place in our hearts. You can follow our training methods, photos and her growth in my blog posts. From 2014 to 2017 'Home' was a 41 foot narrow boat where we made strong friendships both on and off the water. We were close to nature enjoying swan and duck families for neighbours, and it was a fascinating chapter in our lives. We now reside in a small bungalow on the Lincolnshire coast where we have forged new friendships and interests.
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17 Responses to Beware the Indifference

  1. It is easy to one cleaning, now you that the insecticide first get the eggs. The offending probably doesn’t what he doing.

  2. fransiweinstein says:

    What an absolute drag. I don’t know if you believe in these things but the 3 super moons we’re experiencing are playing havoc with everyone. It really is a miserable time right now. Grin and bear it is all we can do. I am meditating like crazy.

  3. Ok, somehow I missed something somewhere. The fleas got into the sofa bed? Even with all the fogging and spraying you’ve done? Did they come with the sofa bed or just get into it when they entered the house? Did they come in on the dogs? Maybe I missed a post somewhere. Hopefully they are under control. So sorry you had to lose all the new stuff. It all is a pain in the arse, isn’t it?

    • See my post on Wimbledon and the World Cup final for the gist. Bud slept on the sofa bed with MOH and they had been here a week before the shit hit the fan. Poor Bud had been scratching since arrival but we thought it was the heat as his coat is so thick. We treated both dogs that day (Sunday) and the house, stripping everything and doing three wash loads, the major one up at the launderette on a hot wash. They left on Tuesday, and we did the house again, having already sprayed the furnishings the day before. We fogged it on Saturday and after much discussion decided about the sofa bed on Sunday, getting it out of the house. The mattress was already outside which was just as well. Thank god it wasn’t a new one. We treated the carpet again and will do another fogging in a fortnight. Our actions now are more precautionary, but if Hubby gets bitten by a tick or a flea, he could have all sorts of problems. Sadly MOH believes one treatment of frontline once in a while will do the trick, but from our visits to him, he always seemed to be picking ‘things’ off Bud and thought nothing of it. That’s what upset us more than anything else, as we know he’s picked ticks off him before. It’s not Bud’s fault, but MOH should be doing something regularly to protect him from things like this.
      Maggie is still clear and that’s the important thing.

      • Ah…Bud brought them in and slept on the sofa bed. You can do what my vet does. You can’t bring your pet there unless it’s treated (recently) or she will treat it and charge you! Or you can ban MOH during the summer! Hope you sort this out with your friend.

      • Maggie is treated every couple of months as per the instructions on the packet. Somehow we don’t think MOH will be making the trip again. It is a long journey (9 hours), and we know we won’t be able to go down as it’s too far for Hubby anyway. We just hope he is treating his house and car as well as Buddy, though if his comments were anything to go by, I don’t think so. He could have treated his car here the day before he left as he’d bought all the ingredients so-to-speak, but didn’t.
        Although he didn’t leave amidst hostility from us (though we were still angry) we’ll just let things take their natural course and continue to work on our own problem.

      • That is a long trip but I’m sorry to see another friendship on the outs. Fingers crossed for Maggie although at this point you are probably past the big invasion.

      • We have all but nuked the house so hopefully it’s just preventative action now. Maggie is still clear, though every time she scratches, we pounce on her, poor love.
        I hate it when friendships go sour for whatever reason, and this one goes back 30 years. MOH did mention that he had fallen out with his childhood friend from 60 years ago some time back. Maybe we were just next.

      • Perhaps he’s having issues with himself! My Mollie scratches a lot. Vet says allergies. We give her meds but she still scratches. You can be sure she is combed regularly just to be sue! 🙂 You make friends easily so new ones are around the corner!

      • I don’t know. Ho hum.
        We’ve always been careful with Maggie after she got ear mites as a pup, so alternated between a flea/tick spot treatment and one that controlled fleas and mites.

  4. Kat Myrman says:

    Wow! What an ordeal. You have a great attitude though, Di. Hope you managed to eliminate all the buggers! 😳

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