Headline eye catcher 13th June

I’ll probably come under fire for this, but this Mum has my full support.
At last, a parent who is not afraid to discipline her kids for playing up in public (link)
You can say I have a nerve as I don’t have kids of my own, but I did bring up a young family for eight years. I always said that I would be happy to take them anywhere on an outing but they only had to play up or show me up ONCE, and I’d never do it again.

The Naughty Step in this instance was a supermarket floor. The girls had been running around making a lot of noise, and didn’t calm down when their Mum asked them to.
She didn’t shout, lose her temper or smack them,  just took them somewhere quieter and told them to sit on the floor for ten minutes.
In my school days, you were sent to the corner and had to face the wall.

Having made her point, the girls realised their behaviour was not acceptable and apologised.
No-one should be afraid to discipline their kids to save face, not embarrass themselves, or fear of what other people think. Kids need to have guidance and boundaries, not be allowed to run amok simply because Mum and Dad let them.

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I am a retired number cruncher with a vivid imagination and wacky sense of humour which extends to short stories and poetry. I love to cook and am a bit of a dog whisperer as I get on better with them than people sometimes! In November 2020, we lost our beloved Maggie who adopted us as a 7 week old pup in March 2005. We decided to have a photo put on canvas as we had for her predecessor Barney. We now have three pictures of our fur babies on the wall as we found a snapshot of Kizzy, my GSD when Hubby and I first met so had hers done too. On February 24th 2022 we were blessed to find Maya, a 13 week old GSD pup who has made her own place in our hearts. You can follow our training methods, photos and her growth in my blog posts. From 2014 to 2017 'Home' was a 41 foot narrow boat where we made strong friendships both on and off the water. We were close to nature enjoying swan and duck families for neighbours, and it was a fascinating chapter in our lives. We now reside in a small bungalow on the Lincolnshire coast where we have forged new friendships and interests.
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18 Responses to Headline eye catcher 13th June

  1. fransiweinstein says:

    Could not agree more.

  2. kirstwrites says:

    I agree, she handled it really well. Just wish that would work with mine – the time out invariably results in hysterical tantrums!

  3. scifihammy says:

    Good to hear there is at least One person out there who will raise her kids properly. I am losing faith in humanity at the moment.

    • You and me both. Parents seem to be afraid of their kids, which they then play on.
      I knew a Mum and Dad who disagreed with methods of discipline, the kid went off the rails and was excluded from school, three times. They took him shopping for new toys and electronic goodies to keep him occupied, thus rewarding him for bad behaviour! He was finally expelled from school for biting a teacher and throwing a chair through the window.
      We don’t let Maggie get away with bad behaviour, and will put her on a ‘naughty step’ which is about 5 yards away from us, then continue what we were doing. We don’t let it go on for ever, just a few minutes and then invite her to join us. She usually gets the message and has calmed down.
      I reckon this Mum reacted to the situation brilliantly.

  4. Discipline is necessary but has to start at a young age. If the children don’t get any discipline then they think that they can get away with anything and never learn any different until they are in front of a judge and jury by which time it is too late.

  5. cagedunn says:

    Discipline can be shown effective at any age. I used to take in teenage foster kids (a lot). Treating them as real people, letting the other kids show them the rules (and how to get around the things that grated – without breaking The Rules), and how to speak up when necessary rather than trying to hide their feelings – these are the beginnings of the boundaries. Respect, consistency and recognition (of needs, fears, etc.) all help maintain that sense of a secure connection rather than a prison-like containment (which is how they normally viewed the word boundary).
    Let them feel it, contribute to the whole, be part of the structure.
    At any age.
    No, it wasn’t easy. Every new kid tried something on, used manipulation and emotional blackmail, tried lies and anything else they’d learned in their skillset of armoury.
    They came around. The rules didn’t change.

    • I fostered teenagers for four years, and know exactly what you mean. Before they even took their coats off, we laid down the house rules, which applied to everyone. Their bedroom was their personal space and we would not enter unless invited. They were expected to keep it tidy, dirty washing put in the hamper, and clean sheets would be put on their bed but they had to make it. We respected their privacy, and expected them to do the same and respect our home. No lying, no thieving, and pocket money had to be earned. If they had a problem, we could discuss it if they wished and help them if we could. if they wanted a ‘one on one’ they chose either partner or myself and asked for ‘a little chat’. Then regardless of time, they would have a private conversation. We gave them enough rope to hang themselves as they say, but warned that should they get into trouble with the law, we would not be bailing them out at 2 am! However, we would be supportive and encouraging with their endeavours, and would always let them put their side of the story in times of disagreements or squabbles.
      It was hard at times, but I found it one of the most rewarding of my life.

      • cagedunn says:

        Me, too. And now almost all my fosters have their own fosters … ’round and ’round.
        One of my absolutely unbreakable rules was “I always know where you are.” And if they got into trouble, yes, I would be there, but only if it came (resulted) from where they said they’d be, otherwise it was a long wait …
        But there were only three unbreakable rules, and any of the others (yes, a visible list, hanging on the wall) were negotiable, based on points earned …

      • I’m a foster granny by default as all of my girls are now Mums. Sadly I have had no contact with any of them since I left in 1989.

      • cagedunn says:

        In the same boat. I move around too much, and the only contact I have (although he keeps in touch with everyone) fills me in.
        In some ways, they want to keep me hidden from their lives. I understand, but miss the journey … it was still worth the effort, and I have many, many memories.

      • Me too, from kids with bikes, to a fourteen year old not believing the ghetto blaster was his to keep, to the young lad who got in with a bad crowd and came back to me to say Thank you.

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