My sister has sent me a text to say she is scattering Mum’s ashes tomorrow.
There is no way we can attend, but at least we can light a candle for her at the due time.
The entry in the Book of Remembrance will be for both of them on their wedding anniversary in August. Sis thought the weather would be better should we wish to travel down to see it.

There is no need for us to visit Down South now.  We only went to see Mum after all.
Family there have their own lives of which we have no part and Mum is forever with me.
I loved my Mum and Dad very much, but in the circumstances, a seven and a half hour journey to read three lines is impractical, and my parents would appreciate that.

Photo: extract from Mum’s collage Feb 2018. I think the photo of Mum and Dad was taken at a wedding.

I understand that provided you give the crematorium staff notice, you can arrange to view a particular day at any time, and also believe we will be able to view the relevant page on-line in due course.
I’m glad Sis has finally got her act together though, whatever the reasons are for her delay.


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I am a retired number cruncher with a vivid imagination and wacky sense of humour which extends to short stories and poetry. I love to cook and am a bit of a dog whisperer as I get on better with them than people sometimes! In November 2020, we lost our beloved Maggie who adopted us as a 7 week old pup in March 2005. We decided to have a photo put on canvas as we had for her predecessor Barney. We now have three pictures of our fur babies on the wall as we found a snapshot of Kizzy, my GSD when Hubby and I first met so had hers done too. On February 24th 2022 we were blessed to find Maya, a 13 week old GSD pup who has made her own place in our hearts. You can follow our training methods, photos and her growth in my blog posts. From 2014 to 2017 'Home' was a 41 foot narrow boat where we made strong friendships both on and off the water. We were close to nature enjoying swan and duck families for neighbours, and it was a fascinating chapter in our lives. We now reside in a small bungalow on the Lincolnshire coast where we have forged new friendships and interests.
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16 Responses to Finally…………………….

  1. scifihammy says:

    I’m glad that your sister told you in advance when your Mum’s ashes will be scattered so you can be thinking of your Mum at the time and say another good bye.

  2. fransiweinstein says:

    I’m glad you have this closure and the peace that comes with it.

    • Hopefully yes for everyone. I was speaking with Bro in NZ earlier, and it’s even harder for him being so far away. Apparently both he and my Uncle have spoken to my sister recently.

  3. foguth says:

    Seems like your sister is at least trying to do a bit better.
    Love the collage.

    • I’m glad she told me, I was so afraid she wouldn’t. I was going through my camera chip and found several I hadn’t used before. I was cropping them for future use, so was thinking about Mum when the text came through.

  4. This may have been hard for your sister too. As the full time caretaker she must have experiences both relief and sadness at your mother’s death. Unfortunately you aren’t high on her list of concerns but it seems like she tried this time. You said it all when you said the you Mum is with you forever. Traveling doesn’t make you closer.

    • I’ve been thinking that too Kate. We all grieve differently and to a different time scale. Mum would not have wanted any ill feeling or to have been an inconvenience. My emotions are all over the place obviously, but I am hoping they will now begin to settle down as will everyone elses.

  5. I’ll echo Scifi – so happy your sister told you about this.

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