Letter to Mum and a memory or two

I wrote an 8 page (side) letter to my Mum today, telling her all about the snow we had yesterday.
In it, I mentioned two Erics, a previous boyfriend of my sister’s and our snowman one Christmas which was the only proof it had snowed on Christmas Day (reference here).
I doubt if my Mum will remember the snowman as she never saw it, but she might recall the shoe guy who was quite smitten with my sister and a regular visitor for a while.
Dad came up with all sorts of jokes about leather and tanning which may well have contributed to the relationship not working out. One of the things I came to realise at a very early age was my Dad’s sense of humour and his expectations that visitors also had one. Sadly Eric of the Shoes didn’t.

Of course there is another Eric tale that has sprung to mind, a rather sad but charming story of an eel that escaped the pot but couldn’t adapt to living in a baby bath.
You can read about that here.

I tend to do that a lot in my letters to Mum now, sending a memory about home and times long ago in the hope that she will remember and smile.
I spoke to her last weekend but after a while she didn’t know who I was. I’m getting used to that now and looking forward to seeing her soon.

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I am a retired number cruncher with a vivid imagination and wacky sense of humour which extends to short stories and poetry. I love to cook and am a bit of a dog whisperer as I get on better with them than people sometimes! We have recently lost our beloved dog Maggie who adopted us as a 7 week old pup in March 2005. We decided to have a photo put on canvas as we had for her predecessor Barney, and now have three pictures of our fur babies on the wall as we found a snapshot of my GSD so had hers done too. From 2014 to 2017 'Home' was a 41 foot narrow boat where we made strong friendships both on and off the water. We were close to nature enjoying swan and duck families for neighbours, and it was a fascinating chapter in our lives. We now reside in a small bungalow on the Lincolnshire coast where we have forged new friendships and interests.
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8 Responses to Letter to Mum and a memory or two

  1. Can your mother read the letters or does someone need to read them to her. It’s important to stimulate their memories as that’s where they are living. I hope your trip to see goes well.

    • I understand Mum keeps them all and reads them a lot. When we saw her last she was reading one dating back to February. I am so looking forward to seeing her as it’s been so long, and I don’t know when we’ll get down again MOH has offered to be our halfway point so that we don’t have to do the full journey in one day (which we couldn’t do now anyway, it’s too much) and we can spend a few days with him.

  2. I’m glad your mom can read. Does she recognize pictures of the past?

    • To be honest I don’t know. My brother said that my niece had put a wedding picture up of the family with everyone’s name underneath which is in her room. We are hoping to get a snapshot of the three of us (Hubby, me and Maggie) to put on my Christmas Poem this year and frame it for her. I do know she remembers pieces of music, like Danny Boy and her Dad taking us round to all the pubs with a piano so that I could play it for his mates. That was 1970.

      • They seem to have some long term memories, but may not be in the correct sequence. Usually short term memories are first to even to healthy aging. My husband visited his mentor who has Alzheimer, they could talk about the old days, and his eyes lit up and could talk about some single events. But when asked him about certain things, he just said he couldn’t remember. Even just bring back some single events long time ago is still good to stimulate her brain!!

      • This is what we hope for and always encouraged her in conversation once she had grasped the thread.

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