Going through my blog photos looking for something in particular, I came across this and still find it funny.
Here’s another one that also amused me at the time
That’s me and Sis by the way. Never really seen eye to eye and growing up we argued a lot.
Mum used to say for us to stop our bickering, but for as long as I can remember, we have always been in opposite corners of life.
We are so very different in our attitudes, ideas, and life styles. Some may see my independence as being stroppy or stubborn, but in truth moving away from the parental county to stand on my own two feet after my divorce was probably the best thing I could have done.
I got to know myself pretty well in those 8 years, not all of it good I might add, but I came out of it OK, just a little bruised and dented by life, but better for the experience.
Hubby and I are pretty similar in the independent stakes though for difference reasons and circumstances, he being a Forces brat packed off to boarding school at a young age.
Our backgrounds are thus totally different, but we have more or less the same values though never agree on absolutely everything. How boring our lives would be then not to have alternative opinions!
I am definitely the distant relative though. Distance has always played a major part, especially in later years and visits to see my Mum. I haven’t managed to get down to see her yet since she went into Care, but Other Brother has visited twice and let me know how things went.
I’ve spoken to several members of the staff now who all seem very professional and cheerful. I gave them our email and mobile number shortly after Mum’s arrival and they’ve listed me on their records as second next of kin. They contacted me when Mum had a fall as they couldn’t get hold of my sister, so their system works. They also know I am several hours away.
They can only tell me how Mum’s general health is, as Sis has asked that anything else goes through her, so I sent her a text to find out what was happening as she hasn’t contacted me at all since Mum first went into respite early in September.
Apparently Social Services have taken over Mum’s care now and it seems likely she’ll stay where she is, which I think is the best solution for everyone, especially Mum herself.
OB says she has a lovely room overlooking the garden, we know she has 24 hour care on hand, and that she’s taking part in everything offered, so is alert, doing crosswords and interacting with everyone rather than sitting quietly by the window, watching TV or staying in bed.
Mum’s wellbeing is my priority, and I shall continue to write every week, phone the home periodically and wait for Sis to contact me. Like the home, she has our email and mobile phone number.