To Open or Not to Open?


I sent a couple of letters out earlier this week to Sis and Other Brother to put them in the picture as to Humphrey and his demise.
I’d delayed in letting them know until we knew what we were up against, the prognosis, and what treatment lies ahead, and although the latter is still vague, I felt it was time to advise them.
I was a little nervous as to what their reaction might be, but then thought ‘It’s Family, so it should be OK’.

OB rang me today. He sounded anxious and concerned, but the more we talked, the more his voice relaxed and I could convey to him that I’m OK and in positive spirits.
He’s had his own health problems this year, as has his wife, so he hasn’t been able to visit my Mum for a few months. He does ring, but is unsure as to how much of their telephone conversation she remembers, and like us, doesn’t hear anything from Sis at all.
He put my SIL on who had overheard our conversation and wanted to talk to me.
She said how brave and strong I was, how upbeat and positive I sounded, which was very nice of her to say as apart from playing the piano a bit, she doesn’t know very much about me. Still, it’s early days I suppose as they’ve only been married 29 years.
Still, it was a good phone call, they are OK, and both have promised not to mention the word Cancer to my Mum should my name crop up.
I’m glad I’ve told them, and equally glad I left it until now to do so.

Sis on the other hand was another kettle of fish and Hubby didn’t really think it was a good idea to tell her as she can be quite ‘hostile’ towards me. It doesn’t help that we have totally different personalities and lifestyles, little in common, and aren’t close at all.
sistersShe too would have had my letter today, and taking the coward’s way out, I turned my phone off when I finished my call to OB.

Part of me was hoping she wouldn’t respond, and another part was hoping if she did, it would be by email, as I can cope with the written word from her better than a verbal exchange.
Sure enough there was a message in my In Box, under the heading Letter, so it wasn’t rocket science to guess what it was about.
My yellow streak was a mile wide today, and the yellow condom suit would’ve been straining at the seams to contain it because I read all the other messages first……… twice.
And replied to them where necessary.
Then we had a cup of tea.
And our evening meal.

Brave and strong? Pah!  That’s me second from the left.
wiz of ozI opened it eventually, and it wasn’t bad.
125 words, 2 of which were to say “Mum’s fine”, 61 about her success at Slimming World,
7 referring to my attendance at SW, 5 concerning receipt of my letter, 4 starting and finishing off, and the remainder about her shock, wishing me luck with therapy, asking me to keep her informed, and glad that they caught it early.
As I said, not bad.
In her defence, I had mentioned SW in my letter to soften the blow of its content and hoping she was doing OK, so at least she answered my enquiry!

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I am a retired number cruncher with a vivid imagination and wacky sense of humour which extends to short stories and poetry. I love to cook and am a bit of a dog whisperer as I get on better with them than people sometimes! In November 2020, we lost our beloved Maggie who adopted us as a 7 week old pup in March 2005. We decided to have a photo put on canvas as we had for her predecessor Barney. We now have three pictures of our fur babies on the wall as we found a snapshot of Kizzy, my GSD when Hubby and I first met so had hers done too. On February 24th 2022 we were blessed to find Maya, a 13 week old GSD pup who has made her own place in our hearts. You can follow our training methods, photos and her growth in my blog posts. From 2014 to 2017 'Home' was a 41 foot narrow boat where we made strong friendships both on and off the water. We were close to nature enjoying swan and duck families for neighbours, and it was a fascinating chapter in our lives. We now reside in a small bungalow on the Lincolnshire coast where we have forged new friendships and interests.
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14 Responses to To Open or Not to Open?

  1. Families are complicated.

  2. I am glad the information seems to have gone over well (or at least as well as can be expected).

  3. ellenbest24 says:

    We choose whom we befriend… The older I am the more I realise that there’s nowt as odd as folk. X be well and keep strong. 😇

    • Since buying and living on the boat, we have made so many friends who have been absolutely wonderful over recent weeks. We are stuck with our families though, and nothing is like The Waltons depicted for us. Still, we accept what is.

      • ellenbest24 says:

        Happy Sunday 😇😉

      • You too. Ours has been great so far, and the dog is exhausted after having two long walks today.

      • ellenbest24 says:

        I had one short two mile one… not so much fun without a dog. 😯😕 We travel a lot so husb says we mustn’t. .. but I’m working on it. 😇

      • Maggie must be one of the most travelled dogs ever, as she came with us when we were house hunting in 2005 -7. We clocked up over 20,000 miles that first year. Poor pup was travel sick, but we discovered that giving her a scrambled egg for breakfast every day settled her tummy and we had no problems after that. The vet said it was OK provided it didn’t mess with her digestive system. For years the ding of the microwave had her sitting at attention for her treat!

      • ellenbest24 says:

        Love it, we drive down to Italy and Spain and across Europe from England, John thinks it would be too much.

      • Ah, could be, especially in the heat. We certainly wouldn’t consider doing it again with a dog. I was anxious about her and the boat but it was unnecessary. She took to it like a duck to water!

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