Walking the dog this morning, Hubby was musing over other people compared to us.
Sometimes he thinks we’re ‘odd’ or ‘strange’ as we have a different attitude or approach to some, especially when it comes to looking after things.
A lot of boat owners take care of their vessels with regular maintenance, washing the outside, rope condition etc. We are the same, but there are some who say they are going to do this, this and this, and yet do nothing. This isn’t a criticism, just an observation, and it’s not as if the boats are left neglected, unsightly or in disrepair.
We agreed too that whatever property we’ve bought, we always sold it in better condition than when we moved in. We improved, replaced or decorated to suit us as afterall it was our home, in which we took great pride. Never having a lot of extra cash, we became good at DIY and improvisation.
The subject then changed to hormones, men, and the menopause.
Hubby started that he didn’t mean his comments to be sexist, but it was acceptable that women have a lot of hormonal changes during their lifetime, and yet men seem to get away with it.
I disagree on that, as apart from the joking obvious that men suffer from PMT along with their women, I think men can have similar ‘episodes’ but it’s not made a big thing about.
For instance, I reckon males suffer more through puberty than us gals.
Or at least I was lucky.
I didn’t have acne, nor did I have to worry about my voice changing tone in mid sentence or cope with the physical outward signs of sexual awareness.
Also, I think guys get a rough deal when their ladies are approaching ‘in violet’ days, the duration thereof, and in later life, the hormonal imbalances of the menopause.
Hubby has suffered with me, and still come out of it alive and smiling (just).
Some may call it The Seven Year Itch, others a Mid Life Crisis, but I think there are times when, regardless of our gender, we all think about life passing us by, not doing enough, missed opportunities, or simply wanting something we haven’t got, that may cause us to act unpredictably or perhaps irrationally and totally out of character.
Could this possibly account for a perfectly happy married man to suddenly be attracted to someone years younger than himself?
Or for a woman to visit the hairdresser and come back almost unrecognisable with a new cut and colour?
Or the desire to move, change the car, take up some kind of sports activity, or leave the family home temporarily for some Man/Woman Space?
My outlook may be naive, but I’m not daft enough to think that hormonal emotions are purely a female entitlement.
Why else would both genders be affected by inhumanity to others, cruelty to animals, or shed a tear at a soppy film?