Being the One in Alone

Hubby says I’m the kind of gal who needs someone to look after.
Having a dog is all very well, but it’s not the same as the company of or conversation with, another person.

Digital CameraWhen he was in hospital last year, I kept myself to myself so very few people knew. In fact, I was told off by several of our boating friends for not telling them about being on my own.
That’s one of the lovely things about the boating community here. Everyone cares.

Being on my own for a few days or a week or so doesn’t count as living alone, but even in those short times the hardest thing was deciding what to eat!
I was content keeping the boat clean and tidy, emptying the loo cassette and filling up the water tank, doing the laundry, walking the dog three or four times a day, even getting up early to do it, but meal times? A sandwich or bowl of cereal, nothing really cooked, unless you included soup or a ready made microwave dinner if I’d been shopping. Not that I think I’d actually waste away, there’s too much padding on me for that!

Saying that though, although I like my own company, I don’t think I’d do very well on a permanent basis. I need human interaction and contact, so a community such as the one we currently live in suits me. Everyone respects everyone else and their privacy, but there is always someone on hand to chat to, or compare notes with on day to day ‘problems’.

rainbow marinaThe thought of being a lone boat owner doesn’t appeal to me at all, even though there are several single liveaboards here, and not all are male!

I suppose it all comes down to confidence, attitude, and knowing your limitations.
Sure, I can manage to keep on top of most things, especially as Hubby and I don’t have the kind of relationship where certain jobs are only done by one of us. We both keep ‘house’, we both cook and we share the load, working together as a team. We always have, it’s one of our strengths. I can’t imagine my life without him in it, but he makes sure to include me in the boat maintenance checks, and I have notes everywhere just in case.

On the other hand, Hubs would be fine on his own. To be honest, he’d probably relish in it as he’s been independent since an early age.
That was until I came along and rearranged his life. He says he wouldn’t have it any other way. ❤
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About pensitivity101

I am a retired number cruncher with a vivid imagination and wacky sense of humour which extends to short stories and poetry. I love to cook and am a bit of a dog whisperer as I get on better with them than people sometimes! In November 2020, we lost our beloved Maggie who adopted us as a 7 week old pup in March 2005. We decided to have a photo put on canvas as we had for her predecessor Barney. We now have three pictures of our fur babies on the wall as we found a snapshot of Kizzy, my GSD when Hubby and I first met so had hers done too. On February 24th 2022 we were blessed to find Maya, a 13 week old GSD pup who has made her own place in our hearts. You can follow our training methods, photos and her growth in my blog posts. From 2014 to 2017 'Home' was a 41 foot narrow boat where we made strong friendships both on and off the water. We were close to nature enjoying swan and duck families for neighbours, and it was a fascinating chapter in our lives. We now reside in a small bungalow on the Lincolnshire coast where we have forged new friendships and interests.
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15 Responses to Being the One in Alone

  1. colinandray says:

    We must acknowledge the huge difference between being alone, and being lonely. Being alone can be a lot fun especially if you have an independant streak….. but being lonely is quite different! 🙂

  2. lbeth1950 says:

    You are a lucky pair

  3. Capt Jill says:

    I’m not lonely, but been living alone for a long time now. I have plenty of friends and lots to do. I can’t imagine being cooped up on a small boat with another person for weeks or months on end. It’s bad enough on the big boats I usually work on!
    I like to have my space and really enjoy being able to come home, relax and not have to worry about anybody else.

    • I think we’re lucky to have the best of both worlds as although we have limited living space, we have what we need, plus plenty of places to visit and a lot of contact with fellow boaters. Our first house was small consisting of a lounge with spiral staircase and kitchen downstairs (16’x 13′ total area plus a few inches), and bedroom and bathroom upstairs over the same size but we hated it having been backed into a corner to buy it. Then negative equity hit us, and we were stuck for 6 years. We enjoyed our house sitting, but were glad to get home. Guess it’s because this is on our terms, and if we fancy a change, we just untie the ropes and go somewhere else.

      • Capt Jill says:

        I’ve spent so much of my life on boats working (usually over half the year), in very small quarters. I really like coming home to have some space to spread out and luxuries like my piano (that I used to love to play but haven’t much lately).

      • I was surprised that I didn’t miss my piano when I sold it over 2 years ago, but it was great to play for my Mum last year when we were looking after her for a few days to give my sister a much needed break.

      • Capt Jill says:

        I love to think of playing mine, but I haven’t even tried to for months now. 😦
        Just too many other things taking all my time and I can’t seem to find much energy for much more than the must do’s.

      • For me, I lost heart and my hands were so painful, it hurt to play. It seemed pointless having a beautiful piece of furniture going to waste in the corner. At least I was able to sell it to someone who would get pleasure from it instead of having to give it away when we bought the boat. Keeping it in storage would have ruined it.

  4. scifihammy says:

    It’s hard to get into a different routine – like the meals! But it’s also good to spend time alone now and then – to get the chance to miss someone. 🙂

  5. I still think it is strange to always have someone around – I was so used to living alone, it is still taking some getting used to, this whole “having someone around all the time” thing!

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