Not Just Today…………

We went up to the Abbey today to light candles for our Dads.
There was a service on, and although visitors are welcome to join in (even half way through) we declined as we had Maggie and she tends to be a bit vocal to some pitches of organ music. The vicar said it was her contribution to the singing, but we knew it was probably boredom and her not being the centre of attention, so we went for a walk and came back.

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These pictures were taken from the grounds at the back and they are flanked by the Gardens of Remembrance. Although this is a large expanse of green, the flowerbed borders are pretty and well kept.
Also along one wall is a mass of huge white lilies.
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Going in today there was a large floral tribute standing by the main doorway. Apparently the blooms were gathered from the grounds, and are spectacular.
There were also several arrangements inside, each donated by families to mark birthdays, anniversaries, or Fathers Day remembrance for their loved ones.

We had no flowers, but we found our way to ‘our chapel’, lit our candles and sat down to reminisce, Maggie curled up at our feet.

As the flames burned side by side, we noticed how one leaned towards the other, which in turn leaned back as if in response.
As always, we envisaged the Dads sitting together having a chat.
My flame was burning quite brightly, dancing almost, and I reckon Dad was getting quite animated in whatever it was he was talking about. Hubby’s flame flickered, and we thought his Dad was having a laugh at whatever mine had said.
Several times the two leaned towards each other as if in some private discussion (probably about us and wondering what hair-brained scheme we’re going to come up with next).
The flame of the candle directly in front of them was frantically pulsing up and down in brightness as if wanting to get in on the conversation, but our two continued to flicker gently in their own little world, with no invitation to outsiders.

Thoughts of our Dads in a place where time didn’t matter, where they were free from pain and worry in a peaceful setting were prominent in our minds as we sat there in the quiet serenity of the chapel.
candles 2015No matter where we are, we will always find a church and light a candle for them.
It is nothing to do with religion, faith or spiritual guidance. It is our way of remembering our Dads who are no longer with us, letting them know where we are, and that we are thinking of them always, not just today.


About pensitivity101

I am a retired number cruncher with a vivid imagination and wacky sense of humour which extends to short stories and poetry. I love to cook and am a bit of a dog whisperer as I get on better with them than people sometimes! In November 2020, we lost our beloved Maggie who adopted us as a 7 week old pup in March 2005. We decided to have a photo put on canvas as we had for her predecessor Barney. We now have three pictures of our fur babies on the wall as we found a snapshot of Kizzy, my GSD when Hubby and I first met so had hers done too. On February 24th 2022 we were blessed to find Maya, a 13 week old GSD pup who has made her own place in our hearts. You can follow our training methods, photos and her growth in my blog posts. From 2014 to 2017 'Home' was a 41 foot narrow boat where we made strong friendships both on and off the water. We were close to nature enjoying swan and duck families for neighbours, and it was a fascinating chapter in our lives. We now reside in a small bungalow on the Lincolnshire coast where we have forged new friendships and interests.
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5 Responses to Not Just Today…………

  1. colinandray says:

    That’s nice. Let’s hope that we will all be remembered with such love when our time comes. 🙂

  2. This is just beautiful. I love the way you described the envisioned conversation between your two dads. What a special tribute!

    • Thank you. We always imagine the two old boys together, probably sharing a bottle of my dad’s home made wine. Many years ago Hubby had hoped to go fishing with both Dads but it never came about. We lost mine in 1996 and his in 2004.

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