A Candle for our Fathers

My Dad would have been 85 this month.
He was not a religious man, but since visiting the stunning cathedral in Milan in 1998, I always light a candle for him on his birthday, on Father’s Day, and at Christmas.
If we go on a field trip and visit a church, if they are available we’ll light candles for both our Dads. It is our way of showing we are thinking of them always, even when we are away from home.candlesAlthough in the Catholic Church the lighting of a candle represents a prayer for someone, we don’t ‘pray’.  We sit quietly in the pews and think about our departed loved ones, the good times and our hopes that they are in a better place, happy, and free of pain and worry. We have a vision of the two old boys having got together over a bottle of my Dad’s home made wine, chuckling as they watch over us.

muppetsI feel it would be wrong of me to quote from the vast number of sources about the significance of lighting a candle as I am not religious.  Neither do I knock anyone’s Faith or Beliefs. One thing I liked about the late comedian Dave Allen was that he always finished his shows with ‘May your God be with you.’

I believe there is something “after this life”, something we cannot possibly imagine, and that our time here is just a stepping stone from one place to another, gaining knowledge and hopefully wisdom on our journey. I am comfortable with that.

spirit 2The flickering light of a candle is so fragile, yet it can be seen as a beacon in the dark for a lost or wandering soul.
The time it takes for the candle to die varies, as our life spans do. If for the duration it has given hope and guidance to just one person, it has served its purpose. By lighting another from the dying flame, darkness will forever be kept at bay.

single candleHappy Birthday Dad.
I will love you always. You are with me always.
I miss you.

About pensitivity101

I am a retired number cruncher with a vivid imagination and wacky sense of humour which extends to short stories and poetry. I love to cook and am a bit of a dog whisperer as I get on better with them than people sometimes! We have an elderly dog called Maggie who adopted us as a 7 week old pup in March 2005. From 2014 to 2017 'Home' was a 41 foot narrow boat where we made strong friendships both on and off the water. We were close to nature enjoying swan and duck families for neighbours, and it was a fascinating chapter in our lives. We now reside in a small bungalow on the Lincolnshire coast where we have forged new friendships and interests.
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