Hubby is not what I would call Romantic, but he has his moments and I wouldn’t have him any different.
With Valentine’s Day tomorrow, I am sure there are plenty of girlfriends hoping their Man will ‘pop the question’ or buy them flowers and chocolates. Perhaps they’ll take them out for a meal or even away for a romantic weekend.
As for the Guys, I have no idea what they hope for, unless it’s a quiet night in watching the footie or some other sport on the telly. I’m afraid I don’t have that much experience with knowing exactly What Men Want as years ago after reading all the ‘How to keep your Man Happy’ magazine articles I tried, got laughed at, and sent the lacy underwear and fishnets back.
Never again. I am a Bridget Jones Big Knickers kind of girl now.I had my first Valentine’s card over fifty years ago. I still don’t know who sent it, but think it was probably a family member so that I wouldn’t feel left out when Sis got hers. I didn’t understand what it was all about anyway, and actually gave one to my Mum, purely to let her know that I loved her.
I’ve sent my share of cards though, some as a “Secret Admirer” but most to the partner of the time.
These days I’m usually the Occasion Card Sender, but that doesn’t mean that Hubby forgets or doesn’t care. Far from it. On Monday, he gave me a heart shaped box containing 8 chocolates, purely because ‘they were there’ on the shelf when he went into the Co-Op to buy a loaf of bread. They are in the drawer and we shall share them tomorrow.
Hubby doesn’t need a special day, card or gift to tell me he loves me. Many a time when money wasn’t as tight as it is now, he would buy me flowers just because he saw them. Other times he thought I’d like some as I’d been feeling low for some reason or another.
How do you tell your Man how much you care Ladies?
Somehow chocolates and flowers don’t quite fit the picture, though I know I could give mine chocolate any time and he’d be happy.
These days, going out for meal would cost us almost a fortnight’s shopping budget, so I’ve got in the ingredients and we’ll have a relaxing meal at home for a tenth of the price.We’ll set the table, turn off the lights to dine by candlelight, put some moody music in the CD and gaze into each others eyes. That way, if I’ve burnt it, he won’t notice until it’s already in his mouth, by which time it will be too late and he’s too much of a gentleman to spit it out.
The experts (particularly those with horticultural interests) tell our men to Say it With Flowers. I’m happy when my Man just says it (especially as there are many men who never say it at all) .
I’m also extremely lucky to know that when he does, he means it. Every Day .
And I believe him.
I love you too Honey.